Heart Matters #1

RULE ONE; never be too free, open and easy to read.

People will always crave for the one thing they can't get.
This word might seem a little superficial but it's the truth. We as humans always seem so interested in that thing we know we can't get and we value that which we struggled hard to get. For a man this is even more true. As creatures of power, they are ruled by what they can achieve and they pride themselves on the goals they set and are able to achieve and as such any thing that comes too easily to these people will be treated as cheap. So you should always learn to carry yourself with value and with great esteem but be mindful of pride because as we all know, pride goes before the downfall of a man. People always go about talking about how this person has pride that person has pride but if you notice, you realize that it's not pride at all but self esteem and when these people step into any gathering people has no choice but wanting to relate with them and for those that can't get too close to them tag it off as pride of the individual.
Haha. These persons command respect and people have no choice but to give it back.

 This rule applies every where. So let's apply it as a woman in relationship. 

First. As a woman of value and knowing that men are hunters by nature you must never be too easy to understand.
Never be too simple or too naive at heart.
Never be too trusting at heart. You must think like someone in the business line, trust but not too much that you become vulnerable.
Never allow your partner see your weaknesses or see you dwell on those weaknesses. Of course as humans we have our downsides and we cannot be strong all the time but you must be strong most of the time. People like to center around power, they are drawn by it so when you begin to show your weaknesses you become less of an excitement and more of a liability.
There was a girl who lived next to my flat some few years ago. Now, this girl was dating a guy who lived in the next flat(my neighbor). The girl cooked almost day and night for the guy, whenever he called, she was there. In short, she was wife material. But this guy constantly treated her badly, from insults to telling her to 'go to her house's after she's done working for him that day, to just plain disrespect. She had no regard in his eyes. While this was going on, his other brother had a girlfriend, she was a banker and didn't live close to the area. Anytime she came by she did so dropped by a private car, she never cooked and hardly ever slept over. But her boyfriend and even the guy that treats his girl bad always respected her. Her boyfriend never shouted at her.
The whole point of this story is that the other girl was free, open and she showed the guy how hardworking she could be. But mind you, this doesn't always equal respect from the other person as people belittle what is so easy to get. They need to see your hard side.
This doesn't mean if you like to cook and clean you can't do it once in a while as your not doing it might just be an indicator that you're not homely. But there should be a limit to it(a great one at that). For instance, you cooking food and putting in a cooler(some girls do this)--that's a no no. Put pride in yourself. Have the mindset that you're not a cook and neither are you his housekeep or cleaner. If he need one he'll employ and if he wants a womanly touch he'll do what's right by you.