I welcome you to another wonderful segment of let's talk with @gloglo on love, relationship and what have. Join me as we do justice to the topic on relationship.

Love is beautiful thing. To be in a "good" relationship is the most beautiful thing to imagine for oneself. It is an avenue for people in love to connect and add value to each other.

But hey, you would agree with me that in some cases not everyone is lucky enough to find and be in the right relationship with the right person. Some people are just not lucky with finding cool people and that is the area we would be treating today.

How do you keep yourself from getting hurt in a toxic and abusive relationship? How do you manage certain things you never bargained for and how are you likely to put up with a narcissist?

A healthy relationship as you will agree with me is when two people share love, stay for and by one another. But the most difficult things to understand in life is how someone who professes to love you can then go on to abuse you verbally, physically, emotionally and in any way they know best. People feel traumatized and confused after a relationship with an abusive narcissistic partner ends.

The good news is that most people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are very predictable. They usually follow the same relationship pattern again and again and contrary to common perceptions about narcissists, most are not especially devious.

You can learn to recognize the early signs that a new partner is a narcissist by paying close attention to how they behave toward you at each stage of your relationship. Then it is up to you to decide if you want to continue.

Why are narcissists considered as abusive partners?

They are low on emotional empathy.

Emotional empathy is the capacity to feel what another person is feeling (or what you imagine the person is feeling). Having emotional empathy decreases the likelihood that you will want to hurt others, because you will literally feel some of their pain. Without emotional empathy, you have less motivation to pay attention to the pain that your words and actions cause a partner. Narcissists can have “intellectual empathy” without emotional empathy. Intellectual empathy is the ability to cognitively understand that you are causing another person pain. It requires that you stop and think about what the other person might feel in response to your actions. Narcissists, therefore, can understand that they may be causing someone pain, but they have less motivation to care because they are not feeling anything negative themselves.

Being in a relationship with a narcissist will make you wonder how incongruent they always appear at every point in time. This type of partners are the type that verbally devalue their partners and hurt them without caring about what happens or how they feel.

N:B Not all people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are equally abusive. Narcissists range from those who put you on a pedestal and then verbally devalue you when they realize you are not the perfect being that they expected you to be.

They are people who physically abuse their mates and try and control their every move — who they can see, what they can spend money on, and how often they can speak to their family.

Having watched and seen where a narcissist can act, I can categorically tell you lots more but for the sake of time we are going to be stopping here for today and continue on another episode of lets talk with @gloglo on love, relationship and what have you.

Before concluding, I'd like to quickly tell you that relationship with a narcissist is the most challenging and energy draining one because they never stop till they bring you down especially when you are done with the relationship; all the same never stop believing in yourself and putting you. Believe you can do and achieve anything without any abuse of any form from anyone. Be you!

Conclusion

Do the following when you have discovered a narcissist.

• once you know you know, just run ... never stay in an abusive relationship. It has nothing to offer you.
  

• Never allow this move you or change your sweet self. Go and be useful for yourself.
  

Finally, never let them decieve and fool you with their lies which only last for a short time and of course not forever.

Thank you for staying glued to my blog till the end of this segment of lets talk with @gloglo on relationship. It can only get better.

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