I had a friend recently ask me why he was always comparing himself to others.

Even though he had a lot of things to be proud of, he always felt a little empty.

The dude had a bad ass job, a great family & was making a solid amount of money.

But why the emptiness?

After talking for a while, we went from his present day to his past.

This gentleman grew up in the Western culture where traditions are a lot different.

He grew up in Kisumu & immigrated to the U.S at a young age.

And as we talked more, I was able to see exactly what the issue was.

His parents came from Kenya to the U.S so my friend could get a great education.

So when he came to the U.S, it was pretty obvious that his parents were always setting high expectations for him.

A grade letter B was seen as a D.

A grade letter C was seen as a F.

Everything below that was seen as uncharted territory.

And every time he stumbled & got a B or lower, his parents were quick to bring up how the other kids were scoring.

'Well you know Jackie got an A in the same class you are struggling with. What do you have to say about that?' his parents wondered.

And after a while, the effects message became loud & clear.

His parents constantly comparing him to others during his child hood had manifested into it's own beast in his present day life.

Now I am not saying that his parents were bad people by any means.

If you look closer, it doesn't really matter which culture you're from, East or West. Pretty sure you were the victim of being compared to others by an authority at one point or another.

And if it was before the age of 7, then it was something that stuck with you for a very long time.

This sort of thought pattern resonated with you & you probalby had no clue why.

In the era of social media, the highlight reel life & technology, we find ourselves comparing our lives to others on the DAILY.

Even if we get a major W, we are not grateful for it.

But rather, we are thinking about how the other person got 2 Ws.

This is a very sad way to live.

'So what advice did you give to your friend who was always compared to others growing up?'

I told him that the past was the past.

Now it's his duty to work on engineering the future.

There's no point in moping around & wondering about 'what if' scenarios.

Really is that simple.

May sound harsh, but it is true.

You can't turn back time & tell your parents to stop comparing yourself to others.

But you can work on your present day life & prevent yourself from comparing your kids to others.

Focus on what you can control, not what you can't.

One of the best ways to recondition your mind towards thinking about how far you have come vs. how much you have left to go is by leveraging gratitude.

Every morning, force yourself to write or say stuff that you are grateful for.

Could be a small win or a massive win, doesn't matter.

But do it daily until you are able to get a rhythm going.

You will feel fulfilled after each session.

Begin the morning with it so you can set the tone for the day.

End the night with it so you can set the tone for the next day.

Soon, you will see yourself reversing years of subconscious programming.

And you will finally be able to celebrate your life & stay in your lane.

No more looking at what others are doing & bitching about it.

But take it a level further.

Adopt Power Up Mentality.

A mentality that has you no longer competing with others.

Rather, you are now getting inspired by them.

You choose what you like about your peers & implement it into your every day life.

Then you go on a LIFE LONG competition with your prior day self.

Your prior day self is an enemy & must be defeated at all costs.

So defeat em!!

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