There are studies that claim that illness is a signal that our body, to remove it, to warn us that we don't love it enough. Many of us, we say soul mate, the kind of relationship that through the complete and unconditional love will fill the emptiness inside us and will heal all the wounds of the soul. And yet the whole life of someone very close and always longs after our love – we should ignore ourselves.
The outside world often deceives us waiting – it seems threatening and incomprehensible. On the other hand, universal interior risks to us seem trivial or not high enough. So the interior and exterior, we sometimes transcendence, which I hope will be more friendly. In fact, their internal and external are interrelated. We can't have the behavior only in relation to the external until we retain a curved attitude. The love that we refuse we refuse at the same time, and others.
The wounds that we offer through a relationship without loving yourself reflected in relations with the outside world. To say no to love oneself means to deny (even unconsciously) that all living beings deserve your love, including you.
Many of our emotional wounds, we offer ourselves, through the way inappropriate in which we are looking. At the moment when we begin, we will adopt and love as we disappear all of a sudden part of the aggressive actions that we believe come from the outside. For the simple reason that violence is external requires our mind aggressive to get inside, otherwise just echo us it is this sympathy, on the Contrary, in view of the aggressive against its own creatures can harm us in many ways: thoughts, helplessness, despair, feelings of inferiority, state of rebellion, fear. Be maintained for a long time they eventually put us in resonance with certain plans, which make in the end, how these ideas should be in good condition spontaneously. Thus, aggression in relation to itself creates, through which the universe harms us.
Justa extent of self-love are difficult to assimilate. Always between pride and despair. When our universe works individually as we like, we take it as a sign of our personal value and reason for pride. When we don't at least provide enough to be useful, we believe that we do not deserve God's love, and we leave our was filled with sorrow. Thus, wave after wave, and the gap across the abyss, we spend our entire life without ever truly love. After numerous passes from one extreme to another, seem to chart a middle way: whatever it is, in fact, has nothing to do with love of self, but rather causes so many wounds that vanity or self-doubt.
There are many obstacles on the path to true love himself. Blockade the most superficial is that preconceived notion that “it is not necessary to love itself”. This is just an excuse for fear to admit that we can't show this love. To be that it is directed outward or inward, love is always the model of generosity inner. Includes courage and dedication. On a human level, with the exception of beings from a high spiritual life, love is rarely presented in its pure form. It's not gold, and the gold sand. Therefore, the relationship of love always takes patience to pick the wire with wire that is just from what is unclean. Will be able to convince others that you love, but don't understand how many disadvantages has this love. So in regard to ourselves, we tend not delude ourselves that we love, but we prefer to let our arguments that it is not necessary to do.
Most often we live, love, relational color or captured many other feelings. However, in the light of his latest, love is not just a feeling. To learn love for yourself means, among other things, to penetrate into this region, mysterious, in which love exists, but has not. This is a fundamental lesson, without which we cannot truly Mature from the point of view of affective. In principle, the first story of true love-this is the easiest that you with yourself, because you start from the point where you are with each other only through the relationship in a few years when you udastsja many of the illusion of perfection from the beginning. And all that you are blown away, than the illusion of its own perfection ... you, you can't leave. You have to go with you to the end.
Beyond, love is the search for a sincere and permanent good, of harmony, of beauty – for you and for those you love. If this search does not exist or is other stresses means you want to carefully sand the gold of the universe of your interior. Love means patience, tolerance... It is so great to learn all this in interaction with other people, but if the relationship that you had you still have not offered this option, nothing prevents you to start right now, yourself from yourself.
The first step would be-do you realize how much you really love. To do this, you must understand that you have a child who requires patience, tolerance, support, love, tenderness. I? Happens to you, tell him stories, perhaps, about all kinds of things you're going to lose, that has little chance to succeed? This is called pessimism, and baby is sad and depressed after listening, so. Sometimes he has to explain the details of countless other people's successes, which he does not he will never get?
This behavior means envy and jealousy, it makes you lose confidence. You, promising always new pleasures – it is clear that it can offer you? He wakes up an appetite, immeasurable, who makes greedy and eternally dissatisfied. To explain to him sometimes that the other is guilty of his failures and what you have to give them a lesson? Thus you teach him the hatred and the violence that accompanies it to fill deep wounds. In addition, as more of the situation you're saying that no matter how much suffering, all that he is the center of the universe? Vanity, that you Wake up thus he feeds an inferiority complex....
All these harmful habits hurt him much less than others than those who practice them. If you happens sometimes behave with yourself means that not love enough.
Baby needs your love. Everything else – the love and appreciation of others, satisfaction of all kinds, soothe, than for some time. Basically it will open your eyes, realize that not got what he needed and resume crying. How? Harsh words directed at others, reproaches, irony, violence, sadness, impatience – these are all signs that it tells others that you have a child who is crying.
The relationship of love between two people who don't know hardly love yourself is like a narrow bridge into the abyss. Each of them hopes that the other will a miracle to fill the void to offer him so that his scutească need to find yourself and love yourself.
Then, when I don't love myself, I'm going to need more and more proof of love from others. If I offer them, I will feel free to hurt me. If I offer them fully, but I don't feel I deserve to do so, I'm thinking that just kidding, it's still a man, naive, and his love will begin to strangle me.
In fact, I never will get more than they are able to me, I say.
On the contrary, when we bring in our relations state of wholeness, which awakens true love for him, interaction is established at a different level. Is not this hunger of love, which makes the other necessary, painful, but overflow overflow. Thus “give” and”receive” acquire a different meaning. When will release another “duty” to heal the wounds that I encourage those that do not love me, I give time to enjoy the love.