I remember being a child...But I haven't been one for a long time. I think my childhood ended around the age of 17 or so when I left home and began my own journey in life, independently of parental guidance. I had responsibilities to consider: job, partner, financial, lifestyle, emotional, social, future...You know, the usual suspects.
I think I did a reasonable job, admittedly with a few mistakes, dead ends and do-overs along the way. Ten years later I owned multiple properties, managed 500 people was happily married and looked to the future with some expectation of compounding my ten years of life into even greater results.
Today I came across this school crossing and it made me think about children these days. I've italicised children because these days it seems the term applies to those under 30 years of age rather than those of a particularly young age. I find this strange and quite disconcerting from a future-perspective considering that these child-adults are the future of society and indeed mankind itself.
I'm not sure when the age of taking responsibility was lifted into the upper 20's and early 30's however it seems that's the case. It probably follows society's pursuit of mediocrity and hand-out ethos. And I probably can't limit to just those ages above either...It seems like responsibility is well out of fashion in general.
I don't think I need to give examples, besides I'd not like to injure the fragile sensibilities of the children, or should that be chiladults?
Life isn't easy; Anyone who has lived a little of it should know that. However it seems modern society is intent upon making it easy, removing responsibility - and therefore any potential for loss, disappointment - and giving people a false sense of comfort. My concern though, is that this behaviour removes the lessons learned through adversity - Lessons that may be required in life. I don't know, maybe it won't matter...But maybe there won't be someone to pick up the pieces, take away the pain, responsibility and consequences that occur throughout life.
But then again, what do I know? I'm not a millennial who knows it all.
Those that give up responsibility get ruled by choice. They buy into authority.
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Plenty of those around I'd say...
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I think it has to do with the fact that much higher education is considered a necessity by society than in the past. School continues well past the age of majority.
Responsibility is indeed out of fashion. The last few decades our culture has focused on rights and privileges. The abhorrent idea of equal outcomes is a direct result of that. When you consider it for a minute, you must conclude
that equalizing outcomes is impossible without totally disincentivizing initiative and responsibility. Small differences tend to add up over time. If the total equalization of outcome is the goal, that will require draconian measures taken to micromanage our lives.
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I know some who continually study - As if they are afraid of the real world.
To be quite honest I con't pinpoint what the issues really are and therefore what strategies may be required. I recall my own youth, my adolescence and entry into adulthood and know that things were different for me. I look at these adults now and see children, childish behaviour and an extreme lack of responsibility ad cannot comprehend how these people are going to make that work moving forward.
I agree with this.
I don't know @markkujantunen, part of me wants to actively concern myself about the future and the other doesn't give a shit you know? I mean these people, and society in general, will reap the harvest from that they sowed.
EDIT: I rudely posted without saying thank you for coming by and commenting. :)
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That can happen, too. But it seems the norm today to go to college. In general, people receive more education than in the past these days. There are much fewer jobs available for those with less education than before.
That you had to move out of your birth home at the age of 17 to live on your own and be responsible for everything is unusual.
Yes.
No problem.
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Yes, certainly these days when it's not unusual for a person to remain at home well into the late 20's and even early 30's. At least where I am anyway. Back in the mid 1980's, maybe not quite as unusual, still 17.5 was an early age to be out of home. Sometimes there's no choice though.
I think it's all a matter of perspective, and is certainly subjective. A young person may have a different perspective on it that I will.
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Where I live, it's considered normal for kids to move out of home upon reaching college age. Because most do not live within a convenient distance from the college of their choice or where they gain admission, they are forced to move out and find a place to live in. Many are assisted by their parents to varying degrees at when they go to college. Some kids who opt for vocational schooling after middle school may have to leave home at 16 because they go to a school that is not located close enough to home. Most guys are conscripted to the military at 19 or 20 years of age for six months to a year. I'd say 18-20 is considered the normal age at which to move out of home. Anyone who lives with their parents in their 30's is considered a failure to launch. Late 20's is pushing it. Those who live at home at 40 are considered hopeless. :)
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Plus the cost of living getting more expensive and forcing more to stay at home longer.
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I see similar writings and various comments in this vein. As in all things, there's a side here, a side there, and the vast middle that has a broad spectrum of variants with a range of objective accuracy.
Students get insulted over student loan debt and/or poor choices for their academic path. Young people are insulted because they can't drive a manual transmission, change a tire, or even know where to pop the hood, much less find the oil disptick. Forget about asking them to check it because that's asking for the world!
They're harangued by older generations for not knowing that postage has to be applied to parcels to be carried from mailboxes by mail service carriers - pht, they don't even know where a post office is located or what its purpose serves. Doing laundry is its own mystery, mainly because they're too busy dying from snacking onTide Pods. They wait for a participation trophy for showing up, and they all get the same treatment, whether they excelled at the goal or not because they can't have their little delicate feefees hurt. They're lazy, have no sense of work ethic and are content to sit at home all day to play video games.
What's worst is that they have this utter disdain for their parents' and grandparents' generations! How dare they?!
And on and on with the lists of everything else that draws ire from more mature members of this society.
What I find, curiously, in every one of these conversations is that there's no mention of where they didn't learn anything skillful, didn't learn to make good choices, didn't learn a sense of integrity for a hard day's work.
Who was responsible for teaching those skills? Who was responsible for helping them wisely choose a career or academic path?
Whose responsibility was it to instill a sense of pride in work?
That seems to be forgotten, or more accurately, completely dismissed from any point in the conversation.
Sure there are some things that can't be taught, can't be forced. Things that are intrinsic with one's unique personality and perspectives. That's not the case with most of these basic complaints.
Why are these generations not owning their lack of interaction with these young people? Why aren't they questioning themselves as to why they invented, then continue to award, participation trophies? One doesn't learn to drive a stick without someone who first, has a stick, and second is willing to teach others. One doesn't know jack about a stamp or post office when one has never had to use one because all of his correspondence is digital. One isn't going to be eyeball deep in debt for school had one's parents been responsible enough plan for one's education, at least in part enough to knock a dent in it. One isn't going to eat Tide Pods in an effort to intentionally try to impress peers if one has been taught by one's parents that friends like that aren't "friends" and sure as heck don't deserve indulgence to their level of so-called impression when it means something as stupid that will kill you in a horribly painful death.
Where have they been the past 20-30 years? And why did they leave those gaps wide open?
There's a middle here that includes those considerations.
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