If you are the one who is always being told, "You Are Such A Loser," it is time to stop believing what you hear. I hear you loud and clear. I hear your frustration with the rat race, that so many of us live in. I hear you wanting more out of life and in particular more success.
Life is filled with disappointments and social isolation. I hear you crying out in pain as you are told no by the people around you. If you repeatedly repeat back to yourself what you're hearing from a robotic voice, most people are going to think you really don't care about what they're saying. mirroring, basically, means repeating what someone else has already said, word for word, followed by hear you saying or listening to you saying, "Why me?" The same goes for negative emotions such as anger and hatred that dominate our life.
The key to changing the way you react emotionally is to validate the thoughts and emotions you have about yourself. To do this, start by feeling whatever it is that's making you angry. When you feel the emotion or the thought, focus on how you feel when you are angry. Now make a commitment to not associate with that person, situation or thing. Do this for 15 minutes daily.
This will help you begin to validate yourself. When you feel a negative thought or emotion, focus on what that emotion feels like and then find a positive thing or event to replace it with. Start with your favorite things or activities. This is a great exercise because you get to know yourself over time. Start seeing your good qualities, your skills and talents, and your past thinking patterns. By focusing on the good parts of yourself, you can begin to validate yourself.
I Hear You is a powerful book summary of deep breathing exercises that are meant to validate and expand your ability to breathe deeply, which in turn gives you more oxygen, letting you focus more attention on the emotion and less on the object or situation you're trying to validate. These practices have helped countless people deal with their emotions in a much more effective way. When you learn how to validate and change the way you react to your own emotions you can take control of your life. I Hear You is a quick action plan that gets you to the deeper levels of emotional awareness.
As you go through your own self-examination and transformation, you'll be able to better understand yourself and others. Learn how to take inventory of your life and identify your own patterns of invalidating responses. It is possible to live a much fuller and more successful life by learning to manage your emotions. If you feel trapped, you can learn to release that tension by taking a moment to observe the experience of another person in similar situations. You can apply this to your own situation and gain insight into how to handle your own emotions. I Hear You is a unique manual that will teach you to change the way you're reacting to your own emotions and to others.