Sincerely, Constantly referring to yourself in the negative keeps pessimism firmly in your mind. The next time you hear yourself using words like “never” and “always,” stop and think about it. Rephrase the question in your head, for example: “I never go anywhere.” Is that true? Do you never go anywhere or are you over dramatizing? If you walked out the door to work you went somewhere, making the statement false. Keep reminding yourself that negative, generalized statements keep you from reaching the stars.