This is my daughter's eye. Through this lens of hers, she sees me as beautiful even without make-up.
At 38 I have been conditioned for most of my life to believe I need primer, foundation, mascara, lipstick and more to be beautiful! I certainly "like myself more" when I am "made-up". Probably as a result of companies like L'Oreal in glossy air-brushed advertising, telling me for years - I must buy their products because I'm "worth it".
The truth is we are all worth it.
Max Factor (Maksymilian Faktorowicz, 1877–1938) created a really scary-looking device called the Beauty Micrometer to help identify to areas of the face that could be reduced or enhanced by make-up. His formula also "proves" people like, Angelina Jolie have an almost perfectly mathematically, symmetrical face.
He and others are not wrong - by design, our eyes really DO love symmetry. BUT. . .
External beauty is appealing however no amount of photoshop can improve an ugly personality!
I love people who are beautiful on the inside!
As Chloe's Mom, I'm doing all I can to watch how I speak about my face and body because I know the messages she hears from me carry serious weight while she is still so young!
Instead of telling her she is beautiful, I tell her she is smart, or funny, or kind. In quiet time, we also talk about the messages we send ourselves.
Negative self talk is something I struggle with personally. When I lose something or make a time-wasting error, I'll often remark audibly to myself "you're such an idiot!" The trouble is, our brains are also listening, and sometimes they lie to us too!
A life changing TED talk LINK has made me want to work much harder on changing my own thought patterns.
Have you ever thought in a workout "I'm dying!" That is your brain lying to you... you are not really dying, you are exerting yourself, that is all!
I believe in positive affirmations - the antithesis of negative self-talk.
As my daughter was preparing to move to a new school at the beginning of 2017 she expressed many 6yr old fears about that. I had recently seen a viral videoclip from Alisa Latto - who said most of these affirmations with her 6yr old twin boys before they left their home each day! I had Chloe repeat them too, which really helped her feel calmer and more confident. We made a video clip.
Some of the affirmations are
I am brave. I am respectful. When I fall, I get back up because I am resilient. One of my favourites is: "I am not beautiful like you, I am beautiful like me!" I love old souls, wise souls, kind souls, honest and happy souls.
If you'd like, please leave a comment below of your favourite positive quote or affimation.
What a beautiful post. Very good advice! I hope to instill those values in my grandchildren. Upvoting and following. I resteemed also.
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Thanks for the re-steem, I'm following you too!
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Excellent post! It reminds me of Kate T. Parker's book called "Strong is the new pretty", where she displays gorgeous photographs of girls of all ages being wild, strong, stubborn, silly... A wonderful book for you and your daughter to share and talk about. Upvote and resteem!
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Thank you - I;m following you :) and we'll definately take a look at the book!
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Excellent article and content.
Upvoted, re-steemed and followed.
It's so good to see this kind of material on Steemit.
Expecting an awesome contribution to the platform from you.
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I will start practicing those affirmation, thank for sharing dear, bless you
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Thanks so much! I'm new here - and I'm on my way to look at your blog! Thanks again for taking time to comment!
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Thank you so much dear, and let me take this time to give you a a proper welcome..WELCOME 💓💞💞.. hope to see more awesome posts from you
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Love the little girl in the video!
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It's my and @guyrilla little one - thank you for taking a moment to watch her! She is such a sweet thing!
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@surfermarly - thank you for this great article - was really helpful! https://steemit.com/howto/@surfermarly/how-to-properly-embed-youtube-videos-into-your-steemit-article-and-make-views-count-in-your-yt-channel-tutorial
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Great Article, and your Chloe certainly does not need any improvements!
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:) Thanks - she's as lovely as your Rachel!
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Really beautiful....... Nothing to say
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Great post @carjhb. As one who deals in Photoshop a lot, I appreciate that there are many beautiful faces out there that radiate an inner beauty that puts makeup and photo-enhancement to shame.
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You are so right! Thanks for taking time to make a comment :)
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