Yes it is ¡
You will need more than 23 thousand lessons to be able to survive your adolescents, therefore I calculate that the ideal age to face teenagers and to be sure of success is:
... at 70 Years
As long as you maintain the vitality of the 30s and modernity, you have not developed any important technological advances that complicate things more ... then ...
- Exactly!
There is no way, you will never be properly prepared to face the teenagers or as I call them: "Dragons", (without wanting to offend the lovers of those animals), there are no magic solutions or absolute truths, therefore I can only give you some suggestions that in my cases served and that, perhaps, with much luck may be useful, then you ask yourself: - Why keep reading? ...
Well why are you desperate and scared and need all the help possible.
First, I am starting from the idea that you have or will have young teenagers under your charge, for whom you care and feel real interest in being good people, responsible adults, and that you will do everything possible to help them in this process, that is, you are a "responsible" father and mother and that is why young people have power over us, why we love them, that is our weakness and our strength.
I also handle the concept that most teenagers are ... in my country it is said: "Boys" and also says: "boy is not people", which implies that these young people in an average period of four years between 12 and 20 years (teenager), suffer a mutation that makes them really idiotic beings, with a total lack of responsibility, a lot of disregard, high levels of rebellion combined with stages of "I do not care" or "I hate my parents" combined with "I hate the whole world".
If yours is not in this category I congratulate you and invite you to make sure you did not change it for a cyber or an alien at birth.
I also start from the idea that most of these young people will find on their way thousands of distracting elements, "friends" groups, sects, and other social, economic, family, political, religious, and endless factors that can be very easily removed. from that "path" and take it to be anything other than what you expect
So first of all:
WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM YOUR DRAGON?
If you want it to be what you want, or that is like you, or more than you ... there is the first problem. Young people have to "let them be" within certain limits.
I'm not proud to say that having 4 sons to concern their evolution in their sexual tastes ... I'm antiquated in that subject, that was my fear, I knew what I wanted for them, but I'm clearly not my decision, I feel Thankful for how it turned out, but I would like to think that I could have accepted his decisions even if they were not what I expected.
For the same sexist condition, my reaction when one of my daughters at 17 told me that I had a girlfriend (I thought it was a way to get attention), I answered that it seemed very good and that I was happy why so there was danger of her getting pregnant.
I am an engineer, and I would like to have a studied engineering, those are my tastes, until now I have not been inclined for that area but that is not my decision, and I must assume that they choose.
So, what to do?
I leave them?...
I guide them? ...
I force them ...
... there are thin lines and not all the margins of tolerance are the same, what is certain is that the environment and the support you give to your Young Dragons can make a difference and understand that same "mutation" adolescent makes They react differently to the orientations that we give them, it is possible that if you put a lot of pressure on your Dragon to be a university student, just to take the opposite one, you will leave the university. Then let him know the advantages of being a university student, tell him how much you enjoyed university life (if it is the case), including the holidays, but also the study days, the teachers that influenced you, the advantages now of being an adult University graduate. Or, on the contrary, why he could not enter the university and how much he would have liked to go and the opportunity he has to attend. There are leaving clues, influencing them subtly so that they make the decisions in which yes I could influence but can not be forced.
A fellow student of Engineering, called Dayana (a really bright girl), thin with curly hair and painted purple, I remember that she graduated in record time (she easily overcame me), she told me in a day of studies, that she She liked engineering, but her parents pressured her for being engineers. Finally Dayana graduated with excellent qualifications, handed the title to her parents and started her studies in Graphic Design, which was what she really loved. Then I learned that she had a brand of flannels with designs created by her, she never exercised engineering.
In this case a valuable time of the girl was lost, but it could be worse, could lead to arguments and fights over that issue and even more serious could end up in a life doing something he did not like, turning it into a mediocre professional.