How Refreshing it Can Be to Let Go

in life •  7 years ago 

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Sometimes cutting people & things out of your life is 10000% necessary. I've recently cut a person out that was toxic to the CORE.

They didn't particularly appreciate it, but had crossed my boundaries more than once so it had to be done.

Prior to that person, was another person with the same intentions towards me that just KEPT trying to get in when I said NO repeatedly.

If someone can't respect your boundaries, a hard NO is not only okay, but necessary & healthy.

I don't always advocate a scorched earth approach but it is needed at times.

Same concept applies to things & "obligations." If you know you can't keep up with it anymore, let it go. It's to your own detriment if you can't respect your own boundaries.

Keeping useless junk or unhealthy relationships alive is bad news. Don't be bad news. Just LET.IT.GO!

Don't fall into the trap of being worried that, oh you're letting someone down or hurting someone's feelings or that you should be able to manage this or that. If you can't, you can't. You shouldn't force it.

If someone else has a problem with it, it's their problem not yours. With that being said I wish you all a happy night and good Monday ahead.
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totally agree with that @chelsea88. Two years ago I came out of a 3 and half year relationship that i stayed in because the girl was the mother of my beautiful daughter. Sadly her mother has bipolar disorder and i forgave her for all sorts of stuff you could n't imagine. I lost who I was as a person I was so skinny I didn't even see it infact I actually lost who I was my character had gone until one day I stood up and made a choice to remove negativity out of my life and it started with the biggest thing i was trying to be a superhero for. Much better for it now but never going down that road again. Chin up smile speak to elbow the hands tired go girl :)

My dad has bipolar disorder and ptsd it was like walking on eggshells. Sorry you had to deal with it

I believe in giving people a chance but within limits
You have to be strong and cut the toxic out of your life without any regrets

Oh I always give them a chance :)

I knew you did
Not even sure why I said that part lOL

It's cool. I like hearing from you :)

Making commitment to let it go is very KEY

True

Did you go runnin' after? :) Sounds like a hellofaday darlin.

Lol 😆

No @platosgroove this was just sort of something I had been wanting to post on. It didn't all happen yesterday :)

Boundaries are healthy and it’s up to no one else but you to decide what those are.

Thx & so true

sometime it could same hard to take such decision, just go ahead and say it it would be very good for your happiness in the long-term.
Very good post

Good post, great advice!
However, it's not always that simple. Especially if there are children involved. My ex-creep will always be slightly there because of that. :'(
Though I had to leave the UK for personal reasons and could not take my sons with me due to legal reasons. That severed most of the relationship with my ex, but there will still be kids - and he still has some of my possessions hostage - which I guess the kids will have to deal with some day.

I hear you because I went through that as a child, very rocky home =(
Sorry you had/ have to as well albeit a different role

If you realize the person not give you respect , so make distance some time it's better for you

Distance sometimes is not even enough. Gotta cut 'em out!

I used to confront people, these days I prefer to mute/block. I don't care if they call me a coward. My mental health comes first. Activism second.

That's a good way to look at it!

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yes, absolutely... same as you would collect all your trash at home, it can take your breath away...
Best regards
Tom