…continued… from part 1 and part 2 and part 3
As we say in my adage, ”The cane we used in flogging the elderly wife, is still kept where it is, and readily available for the younger wife”. It means the same way the other wife this man chased out was treated; this incoming one should expect something similar if not higher, when things don’t go according to the man’s plans.
In my own opinion, based on my own upbringing, I think this lady should wait a little more. I feel it is like a trap. All the trappings this man promises are things that in a few years to come, this lady would be able to afford them herself, but like I said earlier, she is also looking for shortcut in life. You can’t have a luxurious life without the benefit of hard work or patience. The lady is hunting for material benefits while the man is hunting for a baby.
I would advise her to review this contractual agreement but then, it is left to her whether she should volunteer her life and future happiness for such a task, at least he wants children and she wants comfort, maybe they can strike a bargain after all.
Marriage is not something you go into blind. You should have a little bit of decency not to allow yourself to be used because they would still take discount even after selling yourself short. I think many people haven’t allowed the reality to dawn on them that marriage isn’t a 2 hour movie that ends as the script writer wants. They need to know it is a lifetime of commitment and sacrifice. If you can sacrifice and still be happy with it, by all means; perfect. What you won’t accept as a rich man, you start rejecting it when you are still not so rich (Another adage from my local language). This is why some issues need to be addressed before marriage comes into play. Never let anyone present marriage to you as if they are doing you a favour.
Have a little bit of self-esteem. Have value for yourself because if you sell yourself short before marriage, don’t expect to find it during marriage.
THE END
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@olawalium sir!
Life without faith is like a game of snakes and shrews. For those who have a marriage as a deal,life becomes a hell for those people, because both of them keep on trying to take advantage of each other's compulsions.In such a situation the circumstances do not work according to the plans. If it is seen correctly, the wedding is not a 3-hour stageplay, as you play it. Marriage runs on reality and dedication. The other wife can give you a child, but not happiness. Because this is a deal , not love.
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This is beautiful. Yes, marriage runs on reality and it is not hollywood movie. It is a long term goal but the problem is, many see it as a short term goal; something they can run away from as they wish.
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Yes the lady needs more patience.in my opinion Both are greedy to some extent .he wants baby and she wants a life full of comfort. It is not as easy as they both are thinking. Have a good day @olawalium
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Yes, the lady needs to consider it well. If she is ready for all the things that would come out of it, then she can go ahead.
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Of course he would treat her the way he treated her ex wives even if he get what he wants from her so best thing for her is not to marry her!
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