For the first time this year, it's actually sunny and some semblance of warm out there... made me think about the possibility of summer, as well as summers gone by.
Recently, I have been reading quite a few articles about "unplugging" and getting away from "technological overload" and it made me think of one of my favorite places on the planet... so I wanted to share it with you.
The Pervasiveness of Our Technology
It really does seem like we're all "plugged in" at all times. It feels like people can barely make it through the day-- through a few hours even-- without checking their Facebook timeline or their twitter or their Instagram. Our phones are turned on 24/7... people can reach us all the time.
A peek through the woods... to where time ceases to exist
I watch people wander through our small gallery and they are all holding their phones, and some of them even are "filming their life" as they go, rather than simply living their life.
OK, so I own a cell phone, just like everyone else. I use email. I even make most of my living through Internet sales.
And yet? I have never felt "obsessive" about being connected and checking in every five minutes. I think Facebook and twitter are cool deals... but I also can go a week or more without updating anything. It just depends.
These days, I probably spend more time with Steemit than any other kind of social media... and that's not even very much! So we can say that my technology addiction is pretty light. But even so...
Let's Go Back in Time-- Right NOW!
The idea of summer got me to thinking about my formative years and beyond... and how much time I spent at a place in Denmark where time stands still; where time almost ceases to exist.
The house in the woods
You see the house in the picture at right?
That's my late Aunt Ulla's house... it's where I-- and almost everyone else who ever spent time there-- learned to "unplug" from the frenzy of our world, long before such an idea as unplugging had even been dreamed up.
Go ahead and open the bigger version of the image-- yes, that IS really a thatched (straw) roof.
A Bit of Backstory
Ulla was my father's sister-- but she was actually 14 years older than he.
Another peek, this from the driveway
Whenever my parents traveled (which was a LOT!) I would often go stay with my aunt. The house also served as a gathering place for an extended family and their friends. It was a haven of peace and quiet for everyone... a place of healing for those who were suffering some setback or major negative event; a place to decompress for those who lived stressful lives in the world.
Based on old family photos I've seen, I was no more than a few months old, the first time I came here. The photo at right shows my Aunt and I, making Christmas cookies there, when I was just five years old.
And even though it is 6,000 miles from where I now live on the US west coast, I still go back, every couple of years or so. When my Aunt passed away in 1997 (at age 93) she left the house in a "perpetual trust" for all surviving family members to use... as a kind of "family timeshare."
To Recharge and Renew-- Time Stands Still
The house was built in 1938 and sits on about 12 acres of woodlands, some 50 miles from the city of Copenhagen. My grandfather had it built as a "summer retreat" for he and my grandmother and their five children and extended families.
There are wild roses everywhere
Something "happens" when you enter the property through the long wooded driveway... it truly is as if time "stops." Or maybe it just ceases to exist. It was that way in 1938-- and it remains that way in 2017.
Sure, things are not exactly as they were: The house has been thoroughly updated and renovated with modern bathrooms, a new kitchen; there's high speed wi-fi and flat screen TVs and all amenities you could want.
But here's the odd thing: People don't tend to turn on the TV. People barely get on the Internet. Cell phones get switched off. The outside world-- somehow-- loses its "power" to steal people's attention... somehow, all those things just cease to be "important."
Back to What Truly Matters
Summer jasmine
Instead of staying in the modern world... visitors to the house choose to occupy themselves with things from a simpler time-- reading, writing in journals, playing cards, doing jigsaw puzzles, picking berries, taking walks, going to the beach, cooking elaborate meals, sleeping... and just TALKING and CONNECTING with each other.
Over the past nearly 80 years, a few people have even come here to spend their final days.
I used to think it was just something that happened to members of our family because we all have so many memories associated with the house. But this "unplugging" happens to everyone who visits... sometimes I watch how complete strangers often feel it more than the rest of us.
For some reason, people also sleep a lot more than normal, during their visits.
"Sitting and Seeing," and Other Traditions
When I was a boy, my Aunt taught me "how to relax," at this place.
My wife chilling on the terrace... 2015
After lunch (or sometimes after breakfast) we'd sit on the red brick outdoor patio... and engage in what my Aunt called "sitting and seeing." We'd just sit quietly, not talking, and watch nature around us-- leaves in the breeze; butterflies going by; birds singing; clouds drifting overhead.
It was some years after my Aunt's death before I realized that she had-- in essence-- taught me meditation.
She never called it that-- and she wasn't in any way involved in Eastern beliefs or philosophy-- but she inherently understood the value of simply "sitting" with a feeling of peace and gratitude.
You've occasionally seen me write about "The Fine Art of Doing Nothing" and I think I learned it mostly from her.
Comfort with Stillness and Solitude
Butterflies everywhere
I believe it may be because I spent so much time at this place that I today not only remain very comfortable with "being by myself," but don't feel any sense of "loss" at not having technology for a week or more. Don't get me wrong, I love and use our modern "connectivity" for all it is worth... but I still "unplug" and don't feel addicted to it, or dependent on it.
I expect I will keep returning to this magical place, for as long as I am able to draw breath.
The next scheduled visit is for June of 2018-- my wife and I will be ready for a break from life by then... she loves this spot as much as I do, and if all goes well I'll be Steeming updates from there!
... or not. I may just be zoning out.
How about YOU? Do you have a "special place" you go to, to disconnect from the world? Do you find it relatively easy to step away from the technology? Or is it a struggle to put away the phone for a few days? How do you like to spend your decompression time? Do you think technology can go so far as to be an "addiction?" Leave a comment-- share your experience-- start the conversation!
(As always, all text and images by the author, unless otherwise credited. This is original content, created expressly for Steemit)
Such a beautiful place to unplug and unwind. We all need a bit of unplugging from time to time. Get refreshed and Steem again.
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Agreed... unplugging is just important, in order to keep a fresh perspective on "the rest" of life. Meanwhile, I find smaller ways to do that, till we get to visit my Aunt's place next year.
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I love your perspective on time and life. I agree that we all should get away and unplug. Technology can for sure be an addiction for many people. We have been conditioned to tap in to tech simply on an impulse. Even I am guilty of impulsively checking my email, messages, or social media from time to time. I find it relatively easy to unplug. For example I love visitng my hometown in the country here in Texas. Life is slow and peaceful there. Something about being in the country just seems to rejuvenute me.
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Thanks for the comment, @humanearl... you're on your own quest to create your life "outside the box," which will offer you chances to set up priorities that are completely yours. Including how much you want to unplug... or not.
There are always ways to "get away." I lived in Austin for almost 20 years... one of my "quiet treats" was to head to Walburg, TX... a flyspeck on the map... and have lunch at the Mercantile, which had been there since the 1800s and it seemed like time had somehow missed it. I think these places rejuvenate us because they somehow take us completely away from our "artificially constructed" modern world.
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This post reminds my of my grandparents old house. It was originally built to be a barn, but they modified it and moved in when they weren't able to finish the house before winter, and ended up building a different barn in the spring. It was a fairly small house with endless capacity for laughter, family meals, and rest. I miss it a lot.
I'd love to teach my children "sitting and seeing." I could certainly use more of that myself. Thank you for sharing.
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Sounds like a lovely spot... what happened to it?
We can all use more "sitting and seeing." I believe it keeps us grounded, in an otherwise hectic world. Sure, it can be harder with kids because they know no world without tech... on the other hand, some friends of ours have had great success having "retro night" once a week, in which no tech is allowed... just cards, board games and the like.
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"Retro night" -- another great idea!
As for my grandma's house, my uncle built her a new one a few years ago, with more conveniences and lower maintenance. They had to tear down the old house. But we'll always remember it.
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Oh boy! How much I'd like to go with you to that visit on June of 2018. Maybe I kinda could replace and emulate your Aunt's awesome quietude company and/or vice versa.. to establish each other the most eloquent conversation & connection in complete mutism. Hahaha.
So, here buddy. Another blissful ambient tune for your inspiring collection. :)
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Thank you! I think she found quiet very important. She was of an older generation, and was one of Denmark's first female corporate executives before World War II... but she never lost her love of "quiet times."
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Walking around by myself in any environment is a great way to think. City, forest, whatever. It's just something about moving my feet and observing my surroundings.
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I think we can easily end up spending too much time inside our technology... just the simply act of "moving around" helps get ideas and inspiration flowing again.
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Great post reminding us to unplug and "live life"!
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It's important... at least I find that my thoughts get very "stale" if I don't take breaks.
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Looks very relaxing, enjoy.
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Thanks! Very much looking forward to our trip... even if it is still a year away!
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