Adversarial Relationship:

In this mode, one party (typically, but not always, the man), sees his interests as diametrically opposed to the interests of the person he is pursuing. He wants to sleep with her, while she does not want to be picked up by a cocky stranger. It is his goal to use techniques (charm, negging, ect) to overcome her resistance and achieve his goal while defeating hers. The relationship is consummated at the moment the man has overcome the woman.

Surprisingly, most romance novels, romantic comedies, and love stories aimed at women seem to feature this. (see Gone with the Wind, Twilight, 50 Shades, ect.) A man who loves this relationship mode is a "player."

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Complementary Relationship:

In a complementary relationship, men and women's differences compliment each other, in an equal and balanced fashion. Popular with "first wave" feminists in the early 20th century, this mode holds that men and women are equal, but are naturally good at different things.

Women's entry into politics was supposed to have a "purifying effect" because of women's strong nurturing instinct. In many relationships that involve children, one partner is the caregiver, and the other is the "breadwinner." This mode of relationship can exist for same sex couples when one is the butch and the other is the femme, ect.

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Egalitarian Relationship:

A relationship model that presupposes complete equality. There are no distinct roles, since total equality exists. This supplanted the former mode for second wave feminists who wanted to have an equal shot at careers and didn't want to be defined by the traditional roles and conceptions about their gender.

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Transactional Relationship:

A most maligned way of viewing relationships, a transactional relationship involves one person doing one thing for someone, and the other person getting something in return. This can exist between a prostitute and a client, a sugar daddy (or mommy) and a younger and poorer partner, or between a comedian and a partner who describes their love by saying "he[or she] makes me laugh."

A transactional relationship revolves around the two partners ability to meet each other's unique needs.

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Do you have a certain mode that you prefer?

Have your views changed as you have had more dating experience? When I was very young, I assumed all relationships were complementary to some degree. As I got older, I sought out egalitarian relationships, for intellectual reasons.

Now, I find myself thinking about transactional relationships - what do I want, and what does the other person want? How can I get someone who enjoys giving me what I want, and vice versa?

I've always felt extremely wary of adversarial relationships. I can't imagine ever enjoying "pursuing," a woman, nor could I imagine wanting a woman to pursue me against my better judgement. I'd like very to be pursued in general, but I'd make it clear from the get-go that there was no challenge and no chase.

I'm interested, or I'm not. Coy games are just stupid.