If I count the number of times I have decided to change and haven't done so, I would probably get a number equal to the number of letters in this post.
How many times have we said,"This time I'll really make my dreams come true?" or "I promise to change those habits for those that I imagine and desire in my life" or "This year is the definitive one to reach my goals and objectives" and unfortunately we get results quite far removed from what we propose or sometimes we do not even get a result...
The problem is that we live longing for what we don't have. We live longing for material things. We live dissatisfied with our jobs, with our personal relationships, and all we do is complain, take refuge in vices, in people, in drugs, in movies, in ego, in friends, in dogmas, in religions... etc.
But why can't we achieve these goals so crazy and far removed from our circumstances? Why can we only imagine and not create those dreams in our realities?
I have a hypothesis that could be the solution to the problem of not being able to reach any goal that we set...
Let me explain in the following lines...
Focus on building a strong YOU
Every change starts with yourself. If you think the world should be more honest and fair, the first step is for you to start being more honest and fair. This is an example of any problem that bothers you whether it's from other people or any situation that you think should be different because it's "wrong", must first be eradicated in your life, that is, if you feel uncomfortable or frustrated by "something" ask yourself first:"Can I do something about it? and then "What I can do, I'm already doing in my life?" and if you're already doing it, you should probably stop there and be very objective to distinguish if it really depends on you now to fix the situation that bothers you or not. If it's not up to you, it's better if you leave it as it is...
Be persevering
No empire was built in a day.
It is difficult to accept that life is finite, but that is the fact and until death is healed our days are numbered.
If we have goals or objectives, however distant or close they may seem, they will always require constant effort and work. Unless your goal is to go to the store to buy treats, those goals you have in mind are likely to require work for weeks, months and even years. So, until you really internalize that you won't see results for a long time and you will still have to keep working on those goals every day... you won't even be able to advance towards those dreams you have planned.
Our mind is not our friend, we play many traps and one of them is to believe or imagine that from one day to another we will see the results as in Hollywood movies, but in reality it is not so, in fact it is much better because the result ends with many more positive and integral things because those results are being built with very strong foundations that impact other areas of our lives...
Then internalize that whatever you want to do, you'll have to devote constant work to it for a long time. You'd better start accepting this and don't let any more days go by.
Make an Accurate Planning
Since we doubt about those things that bother us, since we more or less realized What is what we want in our lives and accept that the reality is that even in a month we will not see those desired results and still we must continue working... It is time to interiorize another important aspect along with a dynamic:
How are we gonna get to a destination without the exact coordinates? How are we going to shoot a shot with a blurry vision?
To achieve our dreams we must first clarify them and put them as detailed as possible.
Beware, this planning has a 99% probability of being modified with the experiences and work you are doing towards them, but it is the starting point, let's not try to be perfectionist...
I read this method in a book that I will put at the references part...
For good life planning we need to write down the closest commitments first. I mean, not by planning we're going to get distracted and fail at what we've already built in our lives, so let's start with the closest engagements that already have a date and place
Commitments
In this section we will put those situations in which we commit ourselves to someone else in some time and space, for example:
- I'm attending Marco's graduation on January 12,2018.
- I am buying a wedding present and attending my friend Pedro's wedding on December 14,2017
- I'm going out for coffee with Anna on Saturday, October 30,2017
Then it's time to put a list of pending actions that we can take where we are doing this planning, for example, if you're at home reading and doing this...
Write...
List of actions
@house - I'm cleaning my room
@house - I'm taking the dog out
@casa - I'm emailing Arturo with project information
@casa - I'm helping my brother repair his car
This is so that we don't lose the earrings we already have even in the context in which we find ourselves...
Now write the following sections
10,000 feet
20,000 feet
40,000 feet
50,000 feet
Why put these paragraphs like that? It's an analogy to the flight of an airplane. At the first height 10,000 feet you will write with a date, that defined goal you want to achieve in the next few months and a maximum of 10 months. Then in 20,000 feet you will write down those areas of your life that you want to take care of for an indefinite period of time and if you want to set goals within them you can also do so. In the 40,000 feet section you will set those goals that you want to achieve in the next 3 or 5 years, using the same dynamics in 10,000 feet. And finally, in 50,000 feet you will put the reason of your life, that is, those ethical values you want to live in every second, that gigantic motive that makes you vibrate, excite and motivate every day...
In fact, these paragraphs together with the previous ones would look like this...
References:
I feel you. I've been trying to make my self better and better each day but sometimes staying on tract and reaching one's goal i s quite challenging. Thanks for the tips, I'll keep this in mind and hopefully I can stay on track and commit 100% in achieving my goals.
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