As human beings, we all have an idea in our heads about the way things should be and how people act.
Unfortunately, this is a main reason for why relationships between people deteriorate.
We get frustrated when things don’t go our way, we expect our friends and family to act in a certain way, strangers to be more polite and so on.
When reality hits us and everyone seem to do the opposite of what we want, we react in an exaggerate way: we get angry, stressed, we cry and we fight.
What can you do to stop this?
First of all, you have to breathe. You can’t control everything, especially not the way others act. Instead, you can control the way you react to these situations.
When you feel like you’re about to break, take a deep breath, it will release tension and eliminate anxiety, so you’ll be able to have constructive solutions to any problem.
Take some breaks. Don’t think of the worse scenario when something goes wrong. If someone is acting irrationally, don’t do the same!
It will only make things worse. Instead, take a break, collect your thoughts and let the other person do the same.
Also, you have to learn how to respect other people’s opinion. Just because someone has a different opinion than yours, it doesn’t mean that they’re wrong.
There are many roads to what’s good in this world. Everyone has a right to an opinion. Accept the fact that you can’t always agree with everybody.
You have to learn the art of compassion. When you know how to put yourself in another’s person shoes, to understand their feelings, it will be easier for you to understand why they’re acting in a certain way.
Don’t talk just to hear your voice. Don’t say things that you’re going to regret 5 minutes later. Your anger starts from within, so you’re the one who can stop it before it’s too late. Instead of saying something mean, learn to speak less and appreciate silence when it’s needed.
Lastly, this is one of my favorite tricks of them all. When you’re in a middle of a fight with someone and a bad thought about them crosses your mind, add “just like me” at the end of the sentence. For example, “He’s so stubborn…just like me, sometimes”.
When you’re fighting, it’s hard to see that you have a person in front of you, who makes mistakes, just like you and everybody else.
expectations always hurts
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This post actually connects to me, having too much of expectations would only result in having too much disappointments.
One would need to hope for the best but also expect the worst.
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That's true also.
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People often confuse motivation with expectations and because we are living in an age of sensationalism, they expect to be hyped about something that hasn't happened yet in order to be invested, instead of liking what they are doing in the present.
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wow...what a wonderful post @jwolf . i like your post to much. thanks for share the good post.
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Nyang keuh nyan manusia bisa baik, bisa buruk.
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@jwolf .Expecting things is not bad...but often we expect too muchh and hence dont get what we want or expect, that always leads to destruction and Sadness.....
EXPECT LESS AND KEEP YOURSELF HAPPY
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Very motivational
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I can relate to this
Too much expectations is so bad
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Thanks for this beautiful motivational write up, my spirit was elated this morning through this write up.
It was really motivational.
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Well said @jwolf, you made my morning.
Thanks.... Happy following you
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... Solid points are made in your post.
I would like to share Maya Angelou's quote:
"Hoping for the best, prepared for the worst, & unsurprised by anything in between."
Keep posting ....
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Cred si eu ca ne putem scuti de multă suferință în momentul în care reușim să nu mai avem așteptări de la cei din jurul nostru, dar nu intr-un mod resemnat care vine din dezamăgire (am văzut si modelul asta si nu cred ca e sănătos) ci pentru ca ne cunoaștem identitatea si valoarea si aceasta nu mai depinde de parerea celor din jur.
Foarte util articolul tau.
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This is so interesting !!
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you always great post
i liked..........///////
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Most times we tend to have a sense of entitlement. That's what causes us to have too much expectations. However, putting ourselves in others' shoes and trying to think more of others than ourselves should help.
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One secret to find fulfillment and avoid disappointment in life is to never depend and expect anything from anyone.
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A lesson-filled post. Thanks @jwolf.
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Good idea.
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The man who have expectations lives in the future. The future is not in our control. Making expectations is the failing attempt to control the future. (stoicism)
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that's why don't expect much in return if it has to come it will come for sure
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You are right sir, @jwolf most times dissappointment is always the endpoint of expectation, when we begin to expect things from people we become dissapointed, the holy Bible says woe unto him that put his trust in man. We shouldnt place our priority on people and expecting things from them. Because we may end up been dissapointed. Don't do something for someone and expecting a reward from the person, if the reward comes, fine, if not, don't loose faith, cos it is God that rewards ultimately
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Well written about something like this, I learned a lot more.
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Thanks brother for sharing a good information for us..
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