Lies You've Been Told In Your Life!

in life •  7 years ago 

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There are more lies you've been told in life! It's sad how we grow up and realize we learn less than expected.

Extra Planning ALWAYS Yields Better Results

While I'm very PRO PLANNING. We are taught that if we don't plan. We'll fail. This isn't the case at all. Sometimes even in our wildish imaginations, we can't guess what is about to happen.

GIVEAWAY! I'M HAVING ANOTHER GIVEAWAY ON MY T-SHIRT!

Sometimes just "winging It" Yields better results, Because it can sound more authentic.
I'm not saying you shouldn't plan, But life loves throwing curveballs. So Just expect not always to get the results you want.
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It's Okay To Be Wrong!

UGH!
We are so obsessed with being right these days. Sometimes when we have been proved wrong, WE KEEP GOING! We know we are wrong, But we are so ashamed to admit that we are wrong, That we refuse to admit it.
It's okay to be wrong! No one is right 100% of the time!
And when you admit it when you are wrong, Guess what happens.

  • The person may gain respect for you.
  • You won't have to live with the guilt of causing more problems.
  • You can learn an important lesson.
    So swallow your pride for a moment, And fess up when you're wrong.
    Back at my old job, People refused to take responsibility.

One day, A higher up supervisor came over and saw a disaster in my trailer. Pretty much all the safety rules were broken. He was livid. And he stomped over to my supervisor and began yelling at him.
The manager asked who had made the mess. I went up and told the manager that I had done it. And that I messed up, I was trying to load the trailer faster, And I screwed over everyone as a result.
He was so shocked that I was so open and honest. That I wasn't even punished. He gave me a simple "Don't do it again" and left.

Being upfront about when you are wrong can save you in tough situations.
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Stop Believing In Willpower

While many of us feel we have great willpower.

It's a limited resource, And it runs out.
You can't expect yourself to be 100% Tough all the time. Eventually, youre going to crack.
Thats why making things easier for yourself is important.
I have 4 32oz waterbottles next to my desk...
Why? Because drinking lots of water each day is important to me.
If I expect myself to refill my bottle each time I'm done with it, constantly, Every single day.
Guess what?
I'm not going to bother, and I'll drink less water as a result.

Making things easier, And more efficient for yourself, Will allow you to accomplish your goals faster! IF you are in an environment, Whether it's the people, The things, The location. Then you are going to break down eventually. You are fighting a losing battle. You need to get into an environment that encourages your goals, so you don't have to use as much willpower. So sticking to your goals will be easy, And you won't even have to think about it.

Don't rely on Willpower! Use it as a "bonus" That will help you get things done.

GIVEAWAY! I'M HAVING ANOTHER GIVEAWAY ON MY T-SHIRT!


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Thanks for sharing! its so true. I learn the most from being wrong and making mistakes. The most successful people are the ones who are able to overcome their mistakes, learn from them and grow!

nice thoughts and statements again my dear :-)
fully agree

Thank you so much hehe :)

You got some wise words written there @kaylinart 😉 I can just fully agree with you on the point to admit your mistakes and failures or simply being wrong about something. Admitting it you'll feel the real empowerment of being honest to yourself and the great respect yoi earn from others!

dont rely on willpower. I totally agree with that. Use your willpower to build habits, they will serve you way better.

I am still a bot stubborn on admiting I was wrong about soemthing. Especially to some people.
It is just my ego sometimes which keeps me from learning and moving on, but I am working on that and will get better at it.

So true!! I think it's a hard one for a lot of people. I used to be the same way until I just stopped caring. NO one is perfect! Which helps me do it anyways.

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Yes. On an itellecutal level it makes total sense to just admit you are wrong, learn and move on. On a emotinal level on the other hand, it can be hard and it is highly dependable on the topic I am wrong. Because some can questions actions or decisions I have been doing for years, which is never fun but will propaply gain you the most.

I think this is were meditation helps me a lot, to be able to look at things without (i hope i get there one day, till now it is just less) judgment and see how things "really" are.

Oh yes. The older I get and the more I dont care about other peoples opinions, the happier I get. Also something to work on and one of the most valuable things I have learned in my years so far.

@flipstar well bro will power helps sometime when u r in a date and u have to fart but u cant in front of ur date dn it is ur will power who hold dt gas bomb from getting loose from ass 😂😂💨💥
#upvote

this is also true.

Lucky for me I am small and fat so I dont date ;-)

Lol me too after break up and u should upvote my comment 🖖

Yes, we can't expect ourselves to be 100%. Eventually, we will break ourselves but, do you know what I do, what I need, I share those things to God & virtually imagine that I already got that on. Like a car, if I need a car first I virtually drive that car in my mind with action & have fun. Thanks @kaylinart

Lol. @sam99, I can tell you are a master of memes. Nice One!

I definitely agree with your view on "It's Okay To Be Wrong!" Most people are worried about making mistakes as well admitting to them. However, I have usually learned a lot more from my mistakes compared to when I have gotten things right.

I also really like your water bottle example under "Stop Believing in Willpower." Your suggestion there actually matches the concept of a nudge. It's something that's suppose to alter how you behave without banning or forcing to you to do something. As you stated before, willpower is limited. It's a resource that drains over time so it's best to find easier ways to achieve our goals.

A fellow water addict, let's drink some right now!

HEll yes!! LOL

I've got some squeezed lemon in mine and half a calcium/vitamin d tablet for good measure!

Very true about willpower. It starts out high, then depletes throughout the day. That's why its smart to start the day with the most crucial (and often boring tasks) and then easy up as the day goes by. I try to do most of the MUST-do things early on. Nice article!

Exactly! Hehe Nice comment! That this is why i push the harder tasks on myself first thing in the morning.

Oh my oh my. We're each the lucky recipients of a Hoarders basement full of lies!

Love it! Following

Thank you heheh :) What a nice way to put it!

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@kaylinart well one lie i was always told by my ex is that she loves me 😂😂 what a heartbreaking b*#&c
And there is one more lie i always keep telling myself is dt @kaylinart will upvote my comment and follow me 😊

Admitting you are wrong in a tough spot is something hard to do. I applaud you for that because it shows a lot about your character as a person. Our first instinct is to save our own hides usually, and overcoming that to say and do what is right is a really rare thing to see nowadays. I appreciate your honesty.

great points you shared in your post. if you fail to plan, you plan to fail! preparation is very key if you want to see any kind of success in doing anything.

A lot of people can't admit it when they're wrong, and it is really annoying.
especially when you know they're wrong or even lying!
But the points you said in the article are all so true!

You just told the damn truth 🙌🏼🙌🏼

great article! really agree with all points! :)

I totally agree with you
Nice shirts by the way

Thank you so much heheh :)

Nice post, i will follow your profile @kaylinart

Have the best steem day..

Best regards @mrstaf

nice post, beautiful photos.

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Unfortunately we were kinda victim of those lies!

I am your fan. you write very nice and easy to read ) and you are very beautiful!!!

Very good post :)

Say it as it is girl...keeping it real @kaylinart and keep up the good work

fully agree with you that coming out and admitting straight out is normally the best way . at least you get to sleep at night as there is nothing to hide. unfortunately not everyone is like that and hides behind the truth. good writeup @kaylinart . if you have the time do checkout my latest sketches. I 'd appreciate a creative comment . upvoted, resteem & already following you

We can plan all we want, but there's still no guarantee that our plans will work out as expected. And it's absolutely OK to be wrong... shame so many people are afraid to admit it... what's that saying? "He who hasn't made a mistake hasn't made ANYthing."

@kaylinart those big blue eyes are making me drunk 😎

Being able to admit you're wrong is such a valuable trait to have. Stay humble!

yes it takes courage to admit i was wrong or i don't know -- it is great to be able to grow and say it as it is

I hate it when someone refuses to admit they are wrong when they know they are. I refuse to be friends with people like that. They tend to have many more character flaws.

Very useful and meaningful article. Thanks so much for your sharing. Wish one day I can be smart like you. 😁

Interesting point about willpower, @kaylinart! Will keep that in mind actually, since sometimes I tend to be a perfectionist and it drains lots of energy! (more harm than gain)
I've always been upfront and honest at my workplace, thought I avoid making any mistakes because I take my job seriously (sometimes too seriously), but even in the cases I do mistakes I always look for solutions. And that's all that matters since we cannot undo the past, but compensate in the future.

I like the admit when your wrong point. I see lots of power in that.

This is so true. In Asian culture family we were taught admitting wrong is weak. That is so not true. Sometimes taking a step back does wonders for ourselves and build relationships we never thought of!
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Great points! Considering the post's title, I found it a little confusing that the first point is a "lie" but the other two points are not.

You are so right I have seen and met plenty so many people in my daily life that are to ashamed to admit they either need help or don't know something instead of just asking for assistance.

I admit I was one of those type people when I was younger. But I made the decision a few years back to be just who I am admit my weaknesses and build on my strengths.

Just decided that life is to short to worry what people think. As long as I am ok with myself then that is all that matters.

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Very very interesting thoughts here

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Willpower as a bonus...I like that. However, it took a lot of Willpower when I quit smoking.

Excellent Work! Upvoted, and followed.

in the process of changing the enviroment I'm in after what i can only describe as a heartbreaking change in my life....trying to learn to forget things and let them go but not easy....like you said in post I was fighting a losing battle and did crack...onwards and upwards

keep writing it's helping me through the dark days and can sense the light at the end of the tunnel

Perfectionism is a huge infection nowadays. I don't know if it came from the educational system that always support the right answer and punish the wrong answer... or something else...

@kaylinart, just before Fork 19, I'd like to let you know that I've mentioned you on my latest post. Thank you! :)

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Thank you

1000% agree :)

Great point you shared in your post . great article really agree with all point nice post very amazing photos great work

I agree with not just pushing with willpower, a lot of people simply adapt their world to match themselves and that makes their lives much easier. ^^

If I expect myself to refill my bottle each time I'm done with it, constantly, Every single day.
Guess what?
I'm not going to bother, and I'll drink less water as a result.

What a great and simple example and so true! I notice it for myself aswell. I always have a big bottle of water on my desk next to me, but refilling it will mostly just happen when I need to get up for something else. (Mainly to pee, because I drink so much water ;-))

Oh thats good . Im looking for your next topic . All best !!!

Ha ha, this one got me to follow you.