It is quite natural to feel close and connected to your soul mate. But, after a period of time, especially after the honeymoon period ends, it is crunch time, when you need to know whether you both are right for each other or not. There are certain signs that will notify you that your soul mate is not who you think they are.
Aren’t you your true self in front of your partner?
When you are in a relationship, and you feel that you have hide some of your real self from the other person, he/she is not the one for you. You have to be comfortable with your partner, the way you are beautiful, weird, funny, goofy and so on. If your partner demands you to change yourself or indirectly make you feel that you don’t fit in his/her world, the whole relationship is a red flag.
You both disagree on major aspects of life
In case, you and your partner disagree on the main topics like financial handling, physical intimacy, kids, religion, or any other aspects, things might not work out the way you have planned. Whenever there are topics on which you both have different opinions and thoughts, it is quite a challenging task to avoid debates, that might get ugly and result in quarrels and verbal fights. When you two are not clicking on the majority of the aspects of life, he/she is not the one who you think is.
Is your partner available emotionally when you want the most?
Whether it is your best or the worst of time, you will definitely want your partner to be around you. Someone who is emotionally not available to you or is not willing to, especially, during your difficult time, he/she is the right partner for you. A healthy and happy relationship demands of both the partners to be emotionally available for each other whenever the situation demands. Holding hands together, even when not physically present, is a vital element of a happy relationship.
Trusting each is paramount in a successful relationship
When trust and reliability are the issue, a relationship cannot sustain for long. In case your partner is unable to trust you for things in life, you must understand that he/she is not the right person for you. Once the foundation of trust is not built in a relationship, it is quite a challenging task for both the partners to respect or believe each other.
We are not perfet nobody is, it doesn't wether if you have different views and beliefs with you partner because it natural both of you are unique, you and your partner grown from places maybe you're both from the same but your upbringing are not the same. Being married doesn't mean that you to live on each other's differences but rather to create a new relationship out of it. Succes in relationship is not by living on each other's expectation but by recreating.
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I agree! No one is perfect :)
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What I have learned is the majority of people in our society seem to have this "best version" of themselves up for the first 3 months of a relationship. After that you find out who they really are.
Wish it wasn't so. I'm more of what you see is what you get, transparency advocate. Seems to throw people off though...LOL.
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So true! You have to date someone like a year before fully getting to know them. It sucks, Why waste time? Just show yourself.
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Agreed. Have to admit you have kind of become my steemit source of motivation, being that I feel the "life" related stuff we both write is on the same wave length. However, your posts get way more votes and votes that actually make money. (I have a post with 24 votes worth $0.00...LMAO) So I keep plugging away nearly as much trying to build that following.
In fact I made my first VIDEO post today (while sick as a dog) to take it another level and set an example about people taking action. Sadly, no much feedback, but I'm still proud of the message and the rawness of the video.
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Aww man! Keep trying you'll get it. get better you don't need to be sick :( Get some rest and keep posting!
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i can't upvote you i got following error
Transaction failed: abs_rshares > 50000000 || abs_rshares == 1: voting weight is too small, please accumulate more voting power or steem power
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Had you been voting a LOT prior to this?
Looks like your voting power may have dropped too low. You can check it by clicking here and checking the 'voting power' line. The more you vote the lower your power drops. But it does recover. Looks like your back at 86% now. So you can try again. If its not that it may have just been a bug in the transaction. You can just try refreshing the page or signing out/in again. Good luck.
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Thanks a lot Schro , i appreciate your help
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Thank you! I didn't know this can happen :) I hope this helps you @Carfreak
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Thanks kayl
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What the! Try again I've never seen that happen before.
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I don't think it is an issue that you are not your true self. As long as it is the self that you feel most comfortable and at harmony with. Afterall, every single person we meet has some level of impact on our behaviour and personality, some deeper than others.
It goes without saying, that, the significant other is referred to this way because of their signifance in altering you whether for the good or bad.
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SO true! I love this!
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My ultimate goal is for people to be who they are and be proud. There's all the beauty in being yourself and none in pretending to not be you. There's no point. It's better to have people dislike you for being yourself than to pretend and be loved by everyone else. There's no joy and happiness in that. Your posts are very practical and relatable to all. You break it down nicely and keep it simple. That's great :)
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Thank you! I do my best to make it easy to understand.
People definitely need to be their selves.
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LOL XD
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Great Post!
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yay!! Thank you
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I'm my husband's third wife. He's my second husband. And we've known each other since we were 15! By the time we finally hooked up, we were beyond fake things and games. We trust each other implicitly and simply couldn't lie to each other if we wanted to. We know each other too well
On the same token, we will do anything for each other, and we have been through life challenges that would test any marriage.
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