LifeHack - The key to happiness!

in life •  7 years ago 

One of the most important things I am trying to teach my teenage daughter is to ignore what people say about her. It's your life, you make the rules and nobody has any business judging you. Easier said than done, especially at a young age when you're still trying to figure it all out. Our world seems to be obsessed with social conformity and teenagers are the most vulnerable.
Ignoring what other people say about you doesn't mean you should never listen to those that care about you. Yes, I think you should talk to your friends when they question your life choices. They might even help you see things different, the important thing is that they undrestand you and your choices.
My daughter, for instance, is homeschooled and is interested in arts, whereas her friends are preparing hard for medical school. It was hard to make them understand that no, she's not applying for college and she doesn't know if she ever will, but in the end they accepted the idea. Their friendship survived.
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The world is full of people who want to judge you and it's your responsibility to establish very clear boundaries or draw a line, as I like to say. You must make it very clear that those that cross the line will no longer have a place in your life.
As a single mother of two, believe me I know a lot about people eager to pass judgments. Those that manged to see the line in the sand I'm proud to call my friends, those that crossed it, well, I don't know what happened to them as they are no longer in my life.

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Great points. I like to tell my kids that what other people think about them is none of their business. What other people think about me or my kids has nothing to do with us - it has to do with the viewer because we have no control over how/why they view the way they do. That can be a tricky concept for kids to grasp if they are caught up in the centralized systems of control. It sounds like your daughter has a strong grasp on her personal power and place in this world. Good for her! Sounds like she has a great role model. :)

Thanks! Luckily my daughter is busy doing a lot of stuff, she meets different people of all ages so she has escaped from all the peer pressure associated with high school.