Stop Wasting Energy Being Jealous of Other People's Success.

in life •  8 years ago 

It can sometimes be hard as an ambitious, motivated individual not to compare yourself to others and beat yourself up.


I have found myself doing it myself on Steemit and with my other businesses like Amazon merch. The fact is sometimes there is no clear rhyme or reason as to why you are not excelling as planned. Business takes a lot of trial and error and there is always more to learn. The fact is you never see how long people have been trying to get success, you don't see all of their failures. You simply see that they have something you want. This is an unhealthy mindset and you should avoid getting stuck in it.

Don't worry about who has more than you. If you find someone more successful, get inspired by their success. Follow them. Learn from them. Don't get bitter and beat yourself up for not having the same results. Determination is key to becoming a success. And success is whatever you define as success. That word means something wildly different to each of us. But if you find yourself feeling unworthy, annoyed, and jealous then you should analyze these thoughts and let go of them. They will not help you. They will definitely hold you back.


Focus on how to improve your own life.


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Once you let go of the energy you were wasting feeling bitter use it to see what areas of your own life have room for improvement. Are you spending a lot of time watching Netflix when you could be working on projects? Are there online courses that might help you with your business? Are there local classes that could give you an edge? Have you overlooked some opportunities for networking? Are you stuck inside of a comfortable rut? Really try to look at all aspects of your life to see where you can improve. THAT is where all your energy should be going not feeling depressed that you don't have as much as that other guy. You don't know how long and hard that other guy worked to get where he is at currently.

But I really feel like I do great work and still fall behind...


Yeah well, that will happen. It took me many years of failing and struggling to make money as my own boss to even start to get a handle on it and get rewarded for my time. You may not be successful straight away. I wish I had bought more ebooks and online courses though and now invest more time and energy into learning new skills. So if you really don't know how to change to improve yourself then consider learning new skills. Or if you are trying to perfect a creative craft then consider classes for that as well. There is always, ALWAYS room for improvement. Don't get cocky. Stay humble. Keep improving. Never give up.

If you don't want to listen to me listen to C.S. Lewis:

"Failures, repeated failures, are finger posts on the road to achievement. One fails forward toward success." -C. S. Lewis

"Never give up" has become a motto I live by and you should live by it as well. Really, you can accomplish anything as long as you stick to that motto. It's okay to fail but don't let it beat you down. Don't let it kill your spirit. Don't give up. Get up try again, fail again, try again, fail again, try a new thing, fail at the new thing, and keep trying until you are no longer failing as much. That is all there is to it. You won't even succeed without all the failures as cliche as it sounds.


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I feel I cant fail cause I don't give up till I succeed . But don't take on things that are to hard ! So I don't think of myself as a loser ! I am a winner ! Hope everyone would do this !

I take on challenges constantly. You will always fail if you challenge yourself. Nothing wrong with failing as long as you don't give up.

I'm really glad you're thinking that way now !

Keep it up @lauralemons <3

Steem on ! :D

Thanks for the motivation! I too always compare myself with others and stress myself out.

I don't do it as often anymore as I used to because I am constantly reminding myself. hehe

I was literally doing this today -- comparing my success with someone else's. And I felt bad for doing it! My personal life path is incomparable to anyone else's, so there's no reason to beat myself up or feel I am not good enough. I am only responsible for trying to do my best to succeed and feeling confident about that.

I was doing this myself today as well which is why I decided I need to write this post and then listen to my own advice. :) It's good to remind ourselves of this stuff. It'll only set us back focusing on others.

Exactly! :) Thanks for posting about it to remind me of this stuff!

Agree! Get back up, dust yourself off and Steem On! Very Inspirational Post! @lauralemons

Thank you! :)

Good post I'm also bored and do not like to be someone else. The worst of me and my career. I still want to be myself. But the failure I face I consider it is a delayed success. And I am very confident to be myself. So all my friends "ureung PD in steemit" means: they regard me as "the most confident person". Be yourself and do not waste your identity. Regards @ijoel

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You're awesome. I just started myself. Don't really know much about this place but I see that people are really turning it up a level. Keep it up.

Thanks for the post @lauralemons
This is the state of mind one needs to succeed here.

Agreed. :)

Thank you. I admit this is my weakness at times and I need a reminder like this every now and then. In fact it's human nature to be envious at times. But we have to remember nothing comes easy to anyone and everyone is dealing with some kind of challenge and you don't know what they went through to be successful. Great post.

Exactly. It is natural to have some feelings like this what is important is recognizing that they are counter-productive. :)

Absolutely agree. Put your energy into positive things and goals instead of falling into envy end harmful feelings. Visualize your projects and goals and go for it. If someone tells you you wont be able to do it, it only means they think they are not capable themselves, but dont listen.

Great post, really enjoyed it!

Yes that is another good point. Many people will project their fears onto others and discourage them for going for their goals. Important to ignore those people! :)

Lots of little failures are needed for that final big success.

Great post!

Exactly. :) and we could be closer than we realize!

At the ripe old age of 65, trust me , this is good advice.

:) Good to know I am wise for my age. Thanks. hehe

I was blessed a long time ago in learning not to be jealous of others. I realized a lot people that I was jealous of where just as jealous of others and did not realize what they had. This then made me think what I had that I am under valuing.

Thank you for writing this. I hope others realize its best to spend that effort on improving not diminish themselves over what others have done.

Thank you. Jealousy is such an ugly and counter-productive emotion. I am glad I am learning to get past it. My life is much better now that I have started to realize how to let it go.

This is very good and detailed point of view. Bravo!

Thank you. :)

Great advises!

Can't remember where I read it now, wasn't long ago, but I like this quote as well.

The only way to success faster is to fail quicker

Don't get stuck in the normal rhythm

I think it's important to try to stay away from the normal rhythm, at least now and then. If you feel like watching Netflix or play some more games, try to do something else for a change and go gain some new skills or improve one you have.

Yepp, how I feel exactly. :)

Thanks for the post

The motto that I live by is "make your own luck."

That's a good one. :)

I have such a hard time with this very thing. I'm a twin and my brother and I have struggled with comparing and competing between us our entire lives. I graduated from university ahead of my brother and I remember the shock I felt when I learned he thought he was doing poorly in light of that (because I thought he was showing me up with a harder longer degree); then he got married and I still struggle not to feel like a failure in comparison, relatiinship-wise. All this makes for a terribly sensitive relationship between us! Haha
I don't think I ever believed there was a problem with comparing myself like that until I became close with many of the girls at my university: one of the most gorgeous and talented of them, in my view, admitted to me one day that she felt out of place and ugly. I was floored. From that day on, I've put a lot of effort into never judging people by how together they seem to be, but I'm still terrible at giving myself that same grace!

This sounds a lot like how I used to be myself. Don't beat yourself up about having the feelings either. It can take a long time to work through that stuff. The beginning is just acknowledging it as you have done. Over time you will be able to learn to let go. :)

Nicely written and formatted + great artwork

Thank you. :)

When one realizes that a rising tide raises all ships, there is no need to be jealous, just incentive to do as much as they can for their own ship.

This is the perfect attitude steming from the right mindset, glad I read this! Thank you👍

Very enjoyable article! I found it motivational and extremely pleasant reading, thank you so much for sharing! Its always nice to be reminded of this:-)

Thanks, glad it inspired you. :)

So much yes! I could be jealous that this one post of yours has made more money than all of mine combined, but I'm not going to be haha I'm even gonna upvote it ;)