"ANGER" the big barrier.

Anger can be said to be an emotion characterised by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong. Anger can be a good thing. It can give you a way to express negative feelings, for example, or motivate you to find solutions to problems. But excessive anger can cause problems.We tend to think of anger as a wild, negative emotion, but research finds that anger also has its positive side. There are all sorts of good sensible, civilised reasons to avoid getting angry. Not only does it make you feel bad, it makes you do stupid things without noticing the risks and it can be self-destructive. Remember anger is one word short of "danger", and many things we do when we are angry tends to be destructive which we later regret. Anger have ruined many good friendships, businesses, relationships, families etc.
A professor while teaching, asked his students. Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?
The students thought for awhile. One said,because we lose our calm. But the professor asked again,why shout when the other person is just next to you? Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you are angry?
The students gave some but none satisfied the professor.
Finally,he explained, "when two people are angry at each other, there is a distance in their heart psychologically. To cover the distance, they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will shout to hear each other through that great distance.
Then the professor asked,'' what happens when two people fall in love?
They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their heart are psychologically close. The distance between them is very close. The professor continued, "when they love each other even more, what happens? They don't speak, they only whisper and they even get closer to each other in their love.
Finally, they even need not to whisper, they only look at each other and that's all... so next time you shout on a loved one know that you are creating distance between your heart and that person's heart. Let us all try to always control our emotions to avoid ruining all we have build in a seconds because of common thing.
Have a nice day friends .
Martinez