Thoughts in my head # 13 or - A pity. Is this good or bad?

in life •  7 years ago 

Hello dear friends!

Today I want to talk about pity. I often have this feeling and I want to sort this out a bit.
A pity. Such a sick subject...

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I always feel sorry: I regret one person, then another ... who would have pityed me so much ?! (I do not need pity, I mean another things ...)
And all I say to myself: "Stop! Enough!" And then it begins again...
I do not want to offend a person with insulting words (it's insulting to him ...), I do not want to upset him, and in some situations, because of my utterances, a conflict situation can arise - I DO NOT WANT IT !!!

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People like to be pitied, sympathized, understood ... Yes, I do not argue, everyone has their own truth, but this truth is not always true either. But the person decided that he believes in what he is thinking himself, looking for excuses for himself, in other words, he comes up with "excuses" for all his words and actions ...
And who am I? The destroyer of myths ?!
Eventually: it's better to remain silent or sympathize (this is what people want).
And sometimes I listen to their truth, and it really becomes a pity!

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But nothing happens without reason!

Yes, I feel sorry for people, knowing that they are to blame for everything themselves, that they suffer only through their own fault ... but I can not cope with this feeling. Everyone is worthy of happiness and It's a pity that not everyone has this happiness...

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I would be very interested to know what you think about this? Do you consider pity a good or bad feeling? I await your comments!

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Pity is a negative feeling and should be replaced with hopefulness!

Pity is the ego trying to keep you focused on it. The ego is a destructive asshole. It's a negative, petty story you keep telling yourself. If you stop thinking about it (by being fully present) it'll start to lessen itself. (I realize I made it sound simpler than it is... but its not as hard as it seems)

I hope this is helpful.

You need to be honest to yourself, most people think they are but in fact they don't. Sooner or later they discover that the best thing to do is follow your heart...

Kenapa

Yea,it's natural to have pity on people and when you follow your conscience it do help to relate and sympathize with others,but there are people who are just heartless and such people need God to change them.

Very nice post

a meaningful image, I like your post with more details
@nearbird

Nice post

I find pity somewhere between good and bad. Being pity because you've been spoiled by your parents/friends is a bad thing as you become that person which is always mad if the things are not as he wants them to be. But being pity from time to time, like childish games, is really sweet. So it depends which kind of pity person you are :D

Op, I think it depends on the context of subject.pity can be applicable as in showing concern,to be compassionate of one's situation.It has been misinterpreted by many,some see's it as an excuse for their failure by giving pitiable and flimsy excuses;now that's a bad use of the word.

Often a person thinks what he is doing is the most correct thing. On the contrary, I want everyone to criticize me. You are correct yes you are correct.
If a person has an opinion and does not want to be criticized then he is just a human being who does not understand the process of life.

True truth belongs only to God

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thank you

Your are Welcome brother

I personally believe that pitying or taking sympathies makes a person weak.
If i talk about myself, when a person gives sympathies to me i feel i lost it. I feel like a loser.
I think its better to encourage and bulid confidence in a person then to wipe off his tears