For a long time now I haven't had a home. I've given up my personal writing space for well meaning authors and people that wish to be heard on a larger level. Our main site attracts 30,000 visitors per month and it's steadily growing. I previously felt that I had come forth, smelling of roses from a long traumatic journey of perilous adventure, and now it was my turn to take a back seat for others out there that were wishing to write through their trauma. I have been aided and abetted by two wonderful editors; Kara and Shawna, and I couldn't have wished for a better team at my disposal.
I was wrong of course that my journey had ended, though. My life has taken a steep sharp curve as I begin to explore my proper masculinity; something that was never instilled in me as a child. I had no teacher, I had no father-figure to show me the ropes on being in my masculine. No-one to teach me to be a man. In fact, I've only recently in the last year or so started to fully step into my masculine. I have it sorted being feminine; I'm completely open, honest and vulnerable with everyone that I meet -- I have no problem acting vulnerable, and showing strength via my emotions.
As I step fully into my masculine I'm beginning to realise that I'm in uncharted territory; again, I have no role models to feed from, no-one to mimic, and no-one to look up to. In the last several years I would joke to myself that the 80's action hero was a version of masculinity that I wouldn't like to be measured against, a muscle clad man that kills bad men in their thousands. Apart from the killing and the drinking I'm not too sure now. After all, these men are the embodiment of what men should be like; they were always gentle and respectful with women. You don't need to be a feminine man to understand and know how to treat women with respect, right?
And as I mention women, I realise there is a humongous sway on the needs of women right now; I can account several places that will teach me how to understand my emotions better, and how to attribute that in my future relationships, but none that will properly teach me how to be manly and how be masculine.
"Men create wars"
I'd hear my Primary 6 teacher say time and time again.
"If it weren't for men there would be no wars"
I have been analysing these types of widely acknowledged statements recently and I can't but help but feel there is a subconscious war on the masculine. I've been in my feminine for most of my life so such statements have never bothered me much, but now they are beginning to play on my mind slightly -- that there is much blaming but absolutely zero reflection on anyone's behalf.
I took a look at some statistics earlier here and found out that one quarter of families in the UK are in a lone parent situation, and in over 90% of instances the main parent is the woman. Can we concede that a lot of young boys and men are being raised in a feminine only environment and are therefor not learning masculinity? I understand this because I am a prime example, being only raised by my mother.
You have to understand here, I am not blaming anyone, only that it is an unfortunate state we are in. My Mum had to flee in the middle of the night with me because my Dad was abusive; I'm sure there are many other similar cases. The point is not to blame but to shed light on what I'm reflecting. Even if it sucks to hear, because sometimes the hardest life lessons we learn from mostly suck to hear.
There are many things I can say I took away from my mother that were amazing. My loyalty, commitment, and child-like naivety. These are my best attributes, and also my worst traits -- it depends on the situation.
I started The Man Cave earlier this year. A place for men to come together, chat, have fun, and learn. I initially started it as a knee-jerk response to the growing frenzied media on woman's issues but side-stepping most of anything male-related. But it has grown into something more wondrous than I could ever imagine. We have men (and women) in there from the four corners of the globe, all working together for the same outcomes. It's quite amazing, and proof that multi-culturism does work when you take out Politics and frenzied media from the equation.
So I've began with my own little space again, back to square one. Back to the eternal journey of my questioning mind. There won't be any editors for this blog, only my thoughts, opinions and realisations. A way to reflect on my behaviour and well-being as I journey through my masculine; something I truly haven't done before -- but the more I interact with men the more I'm being placed in there.
Expect lots of different talking points on this blog. Life hacks, personal journeys, ways to make money, self-actualisation, and so much more.
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