How to Find Your Path in Life

Finding your path is not an act of searching.

It is an act of allowing.

When you let go of what you think should be, you allow what is meant to be.

So how do you follow your inner GPS? Here’s what I do:

1. Stop the Search

The first step is to stop the search. Call off the dogs.

Life is not something my mind can grasp. Speculation is possible. Certainty is not.

As you relax, you begin to notice that you have an inner GPS working for you. You have access to feelings and nudges.

But overthink, worry, or try to figure things out and those signals are drowned out in a sea of frustration.

It may feel like life will fall apart if you stop trying to control, but I’ve found the exact opposite to be true.

As Rumi once said:

Don’t worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come?

You don’t know what is going to happen. You don’t know what the future holds. So you might as well relax.

1. Use What You Have

When I work with people, I notice a sense of urgency, a rush to success.

If someone wants to be a writer, they want to have written their book. They want to already be a successful author.

They’re focused on destinations. But life is a process, a journey.

To yearn for an achievement is to yearn for an artificial sweetener. It may taste sweet at first, but it has no substance.

Instead of thinking of what you don’t have, focus on what you can do with what you have. Focus on right here, right now.

If you feel the urge to write, then write. Start a blog. Write flash fiction. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have an audience. What matters is that you start.

Remember, it’s not up to you to figure out where you’re going. It’s up to you to follow your heart, your GPS.

Birds do not worry when they fly. They simply fly.

1. Discard Virtual Reality

We all have a picture of what success looks like. Or what it should look like.

We’re programmed by TV, case studies, blogs, and society in general.

However, your path has nothing to do with what people have done. You are you. This is your life. Your path.

The sooner you discard the virtual reality in your head, the sooner you can start accepting where you are.

This is not about adopting a defeatist attitude. This is about stepping out of your head, and into reality.

It is only when you start living in the present moment that you can move forward.

The only thing that matters is following what makes your heart sing. And you do that by starting where you are with what you have.

But Surely We Must Plan?

This is not about discarding thinking altogether. This is about discarding thinking that isn’t useful.

Plan if it feels alive to you. Figure things out if it is exciting.

But to force yourself will only exhaust you. To try to control will only depress you.

And to be honest, what I say does not matter. Follow your heart. Follow your excitement. That is what I keep saying in every article and video.

Your path is already here. No searching is needed. Only a recalibration of where you get your marching orders.