In life people sometimes ruined you and your dreams their reaction makes you down And you want to Do same in return and want to take revenge of thing and you feel like it will give you the real pleasure and you will feel relaxed if you do same or you do more worse to them as they did to you, There is always and need of forgiveness but you do not like to forgive, it's beyond your approach that you can have that much power to bear the pain and forward a step to forgive them.
Most of the time you will be asked Do you want to forgive And I will only reply NO I would Not, But you will have to hear the same platitude from people who believe that forgiveness should be preferred over the revenge, When people see your resistance to forgiveness they will explain you same platitudes every time, That you should forgive you need it for your happiness, You need it to be relaxed in the future you need it to kill the upcoming problems. You should not blame a person's behavior so you have to forgive.
After all these efforts when you came to know that everyone is feeling one thing and you are not able to accept it so you will feel guilty and you will have a shame on yourself. When those people give you some space you will think about it with a calm mind and it will bring you more power to think about yourself and how you should forgive and what changes you need in yourself.
But whenever you want to forgive someone, And you found that it’s really hard for you to forgive You need to accept that you have no power at that time but you need to give it more time and you will find out at a time when you have complete strength in yourself and you will realize that by forgiving someone you will feel very safe and you will realize that you are not doing a wrong thing.
You need to respects yourself you should not force your mind so much that it will lead you to hurt the feelings and emotions always take a step when you are feeling comfortable with it.