The topic of reaction versus response is important and often misunderstood. Many individuals use the terms interchangeably, yet there is a significant difference between the two.
A reaction is immediate and instinctual. It springs from the unconscious mind, influenced by personal beliefs, biases, and prejudices. When someone acts "without thinking," it indicates that their unconscious mind has taken over.
Reactions are tied to the present moment and fail to consider the long-term consequences of one's actions or words. They are often survival-focused and can serve as defense mechanisms. While a reaction may sometimes lead to a positive outcome, it frequently results in regret or negative feelings later.
In contrast, a response is more deliberate and measured. It typically takes time to form and involves both conscious and unconscious thought processes. A response is more thoughtful and considers the impact on both the individual and those around them. It evaluates long-term effects and aligns with personal values and beliefs.
Reactions and responses can appear similar on the surface, but the feelings behind them differ significantly. For instance, imagine encountering a panhandler on the street. If you give that person money due to fear, embarrassment, or guilt, that act is a reaction. However, if you give money because you genuinely want to help, rooted in the value of compassion, that is a response.
Conversely, if you choose not to give money, and the decision is influenced by fear or disgust, it would be classified as a reaction. But, if you choose not to give because you believe it is more beneficial to help in a different way, that represents a thoughtful response.
Understanding these differences is crucial because frequent reactions can diminish personal empowerment. When people react, they operate on automatic beliefs and assumptions that often go unexamined. This can lead to outcomes that are less desirable or damaging.
In the field of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and during my Empower Your Life weekends, we focus on exploring how the unconscious mind works. The unconscious mind is responsible for a wide range of beliefs, biases, fears, and past experiences that can influence behavior. Its main goal is survival, meaning that anything perceived as a threat becomes a priority to avoid.
If someone's conscious goals conflict with the survival instincts of the unconscious, it can sabotage those goals, making it difficult to achieve what is desired.
Nonetheless, the unconscious mind can also be a powerful ally. When well aligned with conscious goals, it can provide motivation and insight.
To access this potential, individuals must spend time working with their unconscious minds, helping to clear out limiting beliefs and negative emotions that hold them back. In training sessions and workshops, we emphasize the importance of integrating the unconscious mind with conscious intentions for personal growth.