Change Your Life

Change can be learned: First, we must learn to overcome the emotional obstacles, have a healthy mind, in order to have a moving life.

Emotions seem simple, but it can control our lives; emotions seem ordinary, but it can be about our relationship is good or bad. How you deal with your own emotions, often reflect how you look at what happened around your life, you can determine the mood of your life can determine your life is good or bad, to develop excellent ability to deal with emotions, you can bring a good life for themselves.

For example, there are A, B two, the same company in the same department to work, the two are due to business relationship will be one of the other departments make things difficult, A personality is better, do not like to be difficult to feel, Always want to respond, attack each other, B is that nothing, always calm to the right way to deal with.

Although this seems nothing, but A's emotional processing capacity is significantly lower than B, A way of dealing with the root causes of disaster may be buried, B can slowly change the attitude of another department of people. Everyone usually how to deal with the reaction of external events, often can be about the future development, do their own emotions master, do not be other people about their own emotions, do their own things to do, so that their own undefeated Of the land, will be able to make themselves better and better.

Everyone has emotions, emotions can not be avoided, but can be controlled, when bad mood occurs, how to make their own calm to, rather than become more restless. Emotional control is sometimes born, some people are born emotional treatment of the master, to be rational treatment, not easy to temper; though so, but the control of emotions can be learned.

Third, to avoid bad mood to lead you to "failure"

"Bad mood" is usually a devastating force, can bring your life to another low tide, if you want to let the bad mood, it is easy to let their lives worse and worse.

Bad mood easily lead to failure, it makes you in the face of things lost calm, but also destroyed your interpersonal relationships.

Fourth, the art of cold treatment: things are slow round

When you are in an awkward or nervous moment, it may be slow to deal with this, this is the so-called "cold treatment", some things you more serious others think that the more serious, the more you naturally treat, others will think you are Unintentional.

Some things slow a slow, you can slow their own tension with others.

Five, standing on the perspective of others

Will Bowen in his book "Do not complain about the relationship" that:

Angry is the negative energy, not because of the anger thrown to others, you are not angry; you will increase the other's unhappy, and their unhappy will come back with your pain together. The use of complaints to vent anger and will not reduce the unhappy, but will make the situation worse.

We can not agree with each other's point of view sometimes from, we only look at their own point of thinking about things, if we can stand in the other side of the thinking, we can understand why the other side to do so, you can find a bridge of communication.

Six, frankly accept themselves

Xu Zongren once said: "Life to be calm, comfortable, happy, must start from their own inner world changed." Put down is not thinking about the past, not to happen in the past to affect today's life, frankly accept themselves, Their own advantages, or shortcomings, are together to accept the most real oneself.

When you calmly accept yourself, as if to be able to put down the hearts of a large stone, the hearts of instant can become smooth and many.

Seven, learn to "love yourself"

"Every day practice to take care of their own," the author of Mello Di Bi Ti said:

Learning to re-live and re-love, refers to find a balance. Learning to love, but also through their own lives; learning to love, but not