How To Be Unique

in life •  7 years ago  (edited)

When I leave the house and take a look at the teens these days, I am shocked because 90% of them look the same….



 

Of course teens are searching for idols. 40 years ago John Travolta and Olivia Newton-John were idols for many teens and these days teenager fell in love with the Kardashians. When I talk to family members they tell me how obsessed they were with these actors but never copied them. Of course they followed a specific trend but everyone in his/her own style.  

 

These days teens copy the exact same look of their idols. The art of make-up has taken the transformation of teenager to another level. Over lining the lips, straightening the hair, buying the exact same clothes. Everything is getting out of control.  
 

Its not only the look. They also talk the same and do the same activities, post the same pictures and try to walk like their „hero´s“.  
 

Now I wanted to bring back uniqueness. Here are my top 5 ways on how to be unique and express your own style !!! 

 

Know that you already are unique Humans are pretty similar. 

We all eat, we feel the same spectrum of emotion, we need to breath in order to live and so on. But everyone of us has an unique soul. No one is like you. You are special just the way you are, don't forget that! Even twins don't share the same experiences.  
 


Do not pursue normal or trendy  

The natural inclination of humans is to fit in. We think about being liked by others but is this really important? I also wrote a post about confidence and if you dress up and cover your true self, you will never be as confident and happy as you could be with the true YOU! Be strong enough to stay out of the line and be different.  Does trendy mean to be like anyone else ? To look like the popstars? No, there is no trendy or normal.
 



Be dependent on nothing 

This one is pretty hard. These days we thrive in a group. Even items can be disturbing to express yourself. Its possible to live without plenty of things. It means no addictive habits that control your emotions. An easy step would be to throw away fashion magazines ( Or these days to unfollow fashion accounts ). Try to define your own style.  
 


Fight your insecurities  

Many people try to hide behind a specific trend in order to stash their insecurities. First be aware of your fear. Are you able to defeat it by yourself or do you need any help by your friends or family ? I recommend to defeat it by yourself. Its a simple way to self growth.  



Determine your goals 

And yes, I mean YOUR goals. What are you aspiring ? What are your dreams ? What are your wishes for the future ? Set up short term goals in order to reach your full potential and reaching your biggest goal in life.  


Being unique also means being creative. 


These are my favorite quotes about being unique 


Create your own visual style... let it be unique for yourself and yet identifiable for others. -Orson Welles
Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life; everyone must carry out a concrete assignment that demands fulfillment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated, thus, everyone's task is unique as his specific opportunity to implement it. -Viktor E. Frankl
Don't let anyone tell you that you have to be a certain way. Be unique. Be what you feel. -Melissa Etheridge



I hope this could help you a little to be confident about yourself and to try out new stuff. 

Thanks for reading 


Stay focused 

Love, Soldier

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Amazing post.. There is no one else in the world that is like you. Honestly we are all unique and we all have much to show and much to strive for.
Cheers for the good post and much love from me..
I yea and happy streaming :)

unique comment for a unique post
its refreshing like a swim off the coast
couldnt agree more,we should all strive to be different than most :)

Thanks a lot !!!

You are so right !!! Thank you

There is no intellectual or emotional substitute for the authentic, the original, the unique masterpiece.

-Paul Mellon-

These are all great points, I personally like to focus on the creative aspect. Encouraging creativity with young people will naturally lead to unique expressions. Sadly I feel that many of our kids are growing up today with less encouragement around art and creativeness, especially with all the digital distractions readily available these days.

This is so true! I grew up with literally no technology only my older siblings had a playstation and I enjoyed the nature around me and the nature inspired me a lot.

agreed, and I was making videos when I was 10, and I was singing, writing, drawing, playing sports, and I was trying to build tree forts and stuff as a kid.... those things helped

Amen

A very beautiful post, thank you so very much for sharing this powerful and necessary wisdom with us all.

All for one and one for all! Namaste :)

Thanks a lot :-)

Oscar winning Article

Thanks so so much !

Nice one as usual babe <3

Thanks my love <3

Lol, I thought you were actually wearing the Steemit logo.

Haha that would be nice ...

It's all about freedom of expression and having passion with all that you do...most importantly, you have to L❤VE life and never take it for granted...GREAT blog @soldier! I can already see you're an AWESOME role model for today's younger generation! Much love n AL🌺HA! @peazfulman

This is so nice of you! Thank you so much <3

This is exactly what this younger generation needs, are role models like yourself @soldier! Now, here's the AMAZING thing that I'm really starting to believe and STEEMIT is gonna help us get there...if we can come together and keep on posting positive content...WE as STEEMIANS are going to have a HUGE influence on the W🌏RLD and SOCIETY....I really believe that we have only seen a microscopic view of our true potential as STEEMIANS....I'm gonna say it now and I'll say it again....Spread da Love Yo!! ❤💛💚 STEEMIT is about to take over the universe! 😊✌💜🎶🕺💃Stay beautiful @soldier!🤗😘

We all try to conform in some form.. work.. dress codes.. hair styles. If anything this generation has so many styles it's unreal. I like your post just my opinion ;)

This gif is funny. Maybe she would feel much more confident in sandals ....
Thanks for your kind words appreciate it

She needs sneakers

You are correct though, we shouldn't be afraid to be who we really feel we are inside. But in 2017 I still feel like we're oppressed by society. It's been really hot at work lately and they still send an email around the company "You must wear tailored shorts" blah blah.. it starts from a young age.. your parents will say things like "You can't wear that", "brush your hair", "they will laugh at you, go change". Children are the most impressionable and I truly believe we're conformed from day 1.
Some will break free from this, but I'm truly a conformist and this makes me sad.

Your post was great, it does highlight many issues.

Lastly, yes heels have their place.. this isn't one of them.

We are in the era in which the individual is awakening. Less and less people want to subscribe to one particular school of thought, which I believe is great and beautiful because it matters not the organization, company or political party or ideology at the end of the day Power Corrupts and the best defense against corruption is individual freedom.

That's a hilarious gif.

Cool and helpful article! Followed =)

Thanks a lot :)

You know what, I'm new here and I love your SWAG @soldier ... Had to just follow you :)

Wow thanks a lot :)

This is a wonderful post, I know growing up it was a lot of this people feeling insecure about their self image and "fixing" that problem by wearing way way to much makeup and trying to imitate people to the point of seeming crazy. I think that people trying to be unique is greatly needed which is what the world is lacking right now. I really appreciate this post as it is something that really could make a change.

Thank you so so much for your lovely words. I totally agree with everything that you are saying !! We need more uniqueness

@soldier you are a goddess!!!!

Ohh thank you ☺️

@soldier i think i will soon have to found a soldier fangrouop named "i also want to marry this blond angel" :p

Haha so cute :P appreciate it

Agreed, the greatest artist always had that talent or skill no one else could copy. So interesting that teens want to copy each other. When it's really the unique people that often times are considered kool. At the very least they were the trendsetters and everyone copied them lol.

This is so true !!!! Some one tried out something different and became a trendsetter :P

This is so true, I love it! Everyone tends to get caught up in the mainstream media with "what's hot" or "what's trending", that they copy that in hopes that it will make them appear "cool." When in reality, they're all just being the same. People need to be confident in themselves and what they believe. Don't follow trends just because it's popular. Don't do something just because "everyone is doing it." What really makes someone cool is standing up for what they believe in and being themselves. That's when they'll realize that everything is superficial and the realm of popularity is just a blanket to cover one's insecurities. Be yourself, be confident, and be happy! :)

Great comment !!! So true what you are saying, love it

Thanks! It's so important that people know that because there's all of these social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc. spreading false narratives. As long as you're confident in yourself, everything else will come :)

@soilder smashing it !!

thank you soo much

Anytime Hun

Q: What do you call a special type of unicorn?
A: Unique-corn!

Upvote if you found this funny!

This was funny yes :P

You should be a motivational speaker!! Steem on!!

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Thank you, really appreciate it. We will see what the future has to offer for me. I wouldnt deny becoming a motivational speaker ;-)

I've never fought for fashion! I live by my own rules! Life is given to us once! And live it must be bright! Thank you for the great post! Subscribe!

You have a great mindset. Not many people live like that! Keep it up

You Look Good Too.
I Think They Are Copying Like You,
So All Looks Same To You.
Coping Cats Everywhere 🐈

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Its ok to be inspired but not to copy ;)

Yup You Are Right ;)
And That Are The Key To Success Inspiration, Motivation,HardWork :)

I agree except 2 things. Pursuing normal is normal. Nothing wrong with that . In a socitey not everyone can be successful. So lot many will be content with what they have and is perfectly fine . For good to exist evil has to be there. For truth to exist lies has to be there

Second point
Dependant on nothing ... its impossible we all are!!! Every living being is

who defines normal? Is normal what more than 50% are? Or is normal what I believe is normal? This is a difficult topic.

And true dependant on nothing is really difficult. Better dependant on less :)

Whoa, your text really got me here, i felt shivers, what a post. 👑

Thanks so so much appreciate it

Btw you're beautiful, really beautiful.

Lots of truth spoken here, I like that ! Bravo

thanks a lot :)

Thank you for posting this! These days, the world truly needs to hear this more!

I believe in that too. The world needs more open minded people

Totally agree! That's holy truth! The more open minded people the more chances for human mental evolution.

So true !!!

Great post

Merci :-)

being unique will make you stand out of crowd and sometimes left person socially unaccepted.

this is true but also sad.

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'All the young kids with their pumped up kicks'
I totally agree with what you have to say!
Great Post

Thanks a lot :-)

Wow, bang on post If we were meant to be like each other would all be related IE twins, triplets etc. Walk your own stride and never follow others. You will have more fun in life being unique! Thank you fo sharing.

Totally agree with that !!!

I agree. All of my friends are quirky, and I LOVE THEM! :) Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

<3

Great advice! Too many "drones" these days.

True !

i gotta say, i'm impressed! awesome <3

Thank you <3

Every is Unique and you are the special one...

Oh wow thank you :-)

Great post, good advice.
keep steeming.

Thank you (:

Thank you for your information I vote you

Thanks, appreciate it

it's their choice who they want to follow and look like. As long as they wear something. Lol

Of course its their choice, but I see so many sad people you are just too shy to be unique

Maybe they want to be not so unique.

Teens these days are a bit copy/paste.
Great post!

So true !

I couldnt say it any better !

Hello ! great article ! pls verify this article
https://steemit.com/health/@alaaabujabal/how-to-be-unique
I guess not everybody understands what unique means

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Thanks for sharing, I do not verify this article. This is stolen content

it is the same in my country.
it is a good posting.thank you.

Thanks :-)

Glad I found your posting. Well, being unique to me is first being on your own self. Acceptance of who you are and what you are is an expression of uniqueness. Second, uniqueness is being firm to what you want in life and will make it to happen no matter what the cost. Third, being unique is learning to accept people and love them though they are not truly lovable and lastly being unique is an expression of the real person inside you. Always show to world who's the real you, no pretension, no sugar coating--what they see is what they get. Always be beautiful and glowing-- Cheers :)

I'm a little bit insecure but i always can with all i want to get, you are so beautiful

Thank you so much!!! :)

@soldier good post keep on steeming x

Thanks appreciate it!

@soilder anytime hun x

Do you really think that everyone shoudl be more unique? Similarities connect people.

Of course not being unique in every topic. I mean if you try to be like someone you like, its not your true passion and that is what makes you unhappy. If you be yourself and connect with people who have the same interests as you, this is what will fulfill you!

You are so right. adding to the discussion.. These teens are growing up post 911, post crappy computers of the 90s. everything is handed to these teens. They have apps for everything. They don't know what it was like to wait for a youtube video to upload for 10 min or even pre youtube. pre cell phones. not knowing who was on the phone before someone called haha, or getting kicked off the internet when someone called ala 56k modems hahaha
Thanks for the post !

Great post! everyone is special!!!

Absolutely agree. Well written, go your on way, do your own things, look how you want to look. Don't worry about outside influences, be yourself!

Could not agree more.

Thank you so much!

True that! I can never keep up with the latest style that everyone is chasing. I probably dress the same way I did 10 years ago lol

Thanks for your thoughts, but actually I am perfectly ok to be Joe average as long as I feel it fits me and I can be myself. Or to put it differently, I don't really care about being unique and actually the ones I knew who really cared about it also turned into Joe Average. Maybe I will give it a try if midlife crisis really hits me :-)

I'm so glad you posted something today, I was actually waiting expectantly. This time you gave me food for thought that got me thinking. Allow me to share something I always say to myself, if you don't mind:

I'm glad to be me. I learn from all, but copy none and just be myself.

You're so right! I cringe whenever I see someone trying to be someone else. It's good to learn from others but just be yourself. Thanks for sharing!!

:)

I try to post constantly to inspire others, thank you for your inspirational words! I totally agree with that! Thanks for sharing :-)

You're welcome. Take care :-)

Nice post. I think that the main problem is that most people in their teen years don't really have very defined goals or objectives, oftentimes not even a hobby. This probably means that interactions with other teens will be based on more shallow elements. Start smoking because other teens smoke. Dress like Bieber or Kardashian because thats what other teens do. However, at this stage there is still no real common interests among them, which, in my opinion, is fundamental for more meaningful relationships. My two cents.

Very wise words @soldier

Have a nice day : )

Thanks, you too ☺️

Great post! :)

Thanks so much

Be Unique ... Be @Soldier

You are one of a kind.

:-)

So kind of you ! Thanks

You are beautiful. :) @soldier

Thank you :-)

we are so desperately to be unique, is this why some men paint their finger nails? or are they just gay? lol ...didn't mean that as an offense..was a real question...UPVOTED!

Thanks, I dont know to be honest. Be unique doesnt have to be being different. If someone wants to paint their nails, go for it. But dont do it in order to be different under pressure.

I think a lot of people feel pressured to do so...it's unfortunately...especially if the trend is disturbing as wearing your pants half way pulled down.

An eye opener post. Today's generation has lost their uniqueness. They always try to imitate others and do unnecessary things with their life instead of having real goals. Maybe some people get back on right track after reading this post.
Thanks again.

Hopefully ! Thanks for your kind words

This look amazing very good photos nice job. image

Thank you so much, love your animation

More women should be like you or have you has there role model. You are and independent woman who seems to have her on her body. You are quite unique about yourself your article and you style. However beyond all of this your life's lesson is learning to love yourself and be the best you you can be. I'm definitely gonna follow you.

Thank you so so much for your kind words !

@soilder double killin it !!!! sick well done you

Thank you (-:

Generic teens, I'm not one of them 👅

Great :P

This post is very good, we're all unique, we have to fight for this, each person can bring something to everyone just like you did with your post

Thanks

We´re all unique !True

So..Every human being has its own deficiencies and advantages. So be grateful to God what has been given to us. Do not look at the sky if the earth and the ocean where you stand and sail still you have not explored. Be a true person, because each of us has advantages and uniqueness that not necessarily in others. That is all

Great words! Agree to all of that

Being unique is usually only acceptable when you go to college. Now I agree with you 100% and I think it's a wonderful thing to be unique but I wish people would not criticize others.

I also want to mention that parents need to teach tolerance to their kids so being unique isn't a crime.

Parents play such a huge role in their kids life. Kids need to except differences between people !

Its so beautiful, i vote you

Thanks a lot :-)

@Soldier follow me please 😁

agian and again and again
Thanks For sharing Good Contents
it is realy helpful

Appreciate it! Thank you

I was once in summer in Stockholm. All the teenager had literally the same clothings. Not only because all of them went to H&M, but there is also this Law of Jante that forms a strong group behavior of the people in Scandinavia.

This is really crazy... Same goes for Germany.

When you leave the house 90% of the "teens" you see look the same?

The world has never been more diverse than it is today.

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i cant agree with that because I personally know many people and especially the young generation copies looks from their idols. I also did some interviews with the older generation and they told me that it wasnt like that in the past years. things have changed and people are copying more than ever. I didnt look to statistics, I look to the real life what is in front of my eyes. But thanks a lot for your opinion :) Appreciate it

Yeah I understand what you mean. It's a copycat world.

But, there are so many people to copy. lol

Oh yeah you´re right. especially because of social media. There is given how to look like, how to pose etc. Your "uncool" if you are different

Wow! You put a lot of effort into this post. We have no choice but to be unique human beings. Its all about understanding that you ARE. I like your positivity and encouragement. I'm sure people benefit a ton from your posts.

I think you're partly right, BUT, Socrates said this; "The children now love luxury. They have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise.”

May i first ask where do you live? Where are you from? Because people are more diverse and unique than ever before. Especially teenagers. The whole gender chrisis is an indictation of this. Kids dont know whether they want to be boys or girls. There will always be trends. From makeup being used so diverse to clothing styles being so different and erractic. I'd love to agree with you but i cant. Maybe its just where you reside that people are just followers. I live in NJ and i dont see too many wild styles but when i go to Ny, where i'm originally from, i see a whole new level of originality from all kinds of people ranging from all ages. Especially teens.

i like the fact that its coming from young person like you,and a girl also...nice post

we all are born unique...... :)

Excellent post"! thanks you! :)

Excellent post, we are all unique and beautiful creatures!

Have a look at this article from another steemer about dreams.

https://steemit.com/life/@restlesswanderer/how-to-make-your-dreams-come-true

Nice way to put it. Every body are beautiful in their own way.

Good post. Everybody is special one~~

Agree! Life is much more exciting when we are all unique! Who needs a Kardashian army! No thanks!

This post was on point. Nobody else in the world Is the same. People may look similar or act similar but it is what is inside that makes us all different. We should all strive to search knowledge of self rather than focus on being like 'the next best thing' or follow the current trend.

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Nice thought......Everyone has their own personality and don't try to copy others it makes you a part of crowd

My gym is a drone factory.

About two years ago someone wore an Under Armour shirt to the gym, a few months later Under Armour was the thing.

They all wear the same types of workout shorts, shoes...

Not all but enough to notice if you're aware of it.

Now, many of the guys have beards. I guess it is the "in" thing.

I think schooling teaches conformity and discourages individualism, you can see it everywhere.

Create your own visual style... let it be unique for yourself and yet identifiable for others.
--------Orson Welles-------------

Your topic makes sense. :)

I turned 32 in 2017, this year, and I remember my teen years. I sometimes tried to dress and act like some people at that time. I understand how people get sucked into it.

One thing that helped me was opportunities to go camping and the practice of content creation. We have to love ourselves more in order to take our own paths. People copy their idols mostly because they are empty inside. If we want to help younger people, we have to help them find purpose deep inside of their souls.

You are really unique !

Nice post ! Thank you for your effort !
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Show people that you absolutely, genuinely appreciate them in your life. To do this, here's a bunch of ideas: (some inspired from a book I recently read)

Say thanks more often

Great post! Everybody is unique and amazing and they need to be themselves.

Great post! :)

I fully agree! But it's so hard to stay unique when today's society has very strongly developed definition of beauty... Thanks for sharing this with us! 😃

Yes, we do have to be unique or else we will lose our self in someone else's worldly image.

We need to believe in ourselves. Everyone is unique. Trying to live another person's life puts one in bondage.
Thanks for sharing @soldier
You are my soldier and i've always believed in you.. and following you... please always stay in touch.

Congratulations @soldier
You took 41 place in my Top 100 of posts

helpful post im being honest, feel free to check my new post, on how will humans look in 1.000 years, the 2017 science.

a very optimistic yet realistic post it is...u explained the truth with ease...looking forward to more...cheers!:)

This is truly amazing. I am 100% in support of this post. Its not easy to stand out but i know one thing for sure and it is that, if you do what is hard , things turn out to be easy later in life and if you do what is easy today, things will definitely be difficult in life later on. I really love that you decided to share with us these amazing facts today. Thanks for the insight and please keep it up.

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what do you mean?

Being unique isn't the thing, it's in my opinion more about not pressuring your inner self to be something your not, or trying to fit in. You don't need to try! Just chill and do you.

Amazing post thanks so much for sharing :)

Nice nice @soldier !
Your post are always very unique.
I always love checking out what you have to share. :)
I definitely believe being creative is such a huge part of being unique.

awesome post! Its also kind of creepy how everyone, not only teens, even do their makeup exactly the same based on youtube tutorials.

I could not have said it better myself. I grew up in the 90's and the situation of "following" was still not as bad as today. It is really sad actually but hopefully more people like you open eyes of our youth !