“For convenience sake, we deny the truth and look past it. Instant pleasure transforms quietly into immense pain.”― Amitav Chowdhury
Commitment is nonexistent at worse, and partially present at best. What do you expect coming from human beings perpetually on a quest trying to maximize their own best interests? Everything is about convenience nowadays. Ironically, we commit ourselves the most to endeavors that scream superficiality. Worse is the fact that we don’t commit to these things to gain perhaps experience or growth out of it, but rather for the recognition, success and praise that these endeavors can possibly elicit.
Even more ironic is the fact that we host for ourselves major self-blame parties when we feel that we are becoming “lazy” in the keeping up of our immensely packed schedules. While we tame down the voice in our heads asking to “slow it down”, we turn up the one that encourages us to display little effort to enhance our most important relationships. The paradox is that when asked the question of the hierarchy of our priorities, we’ll instinctively assign a higher value on those very relationships, yet in practical reality, we don’t practice what we “preach”.
In other words, we want the benefits without putting in the work. People want the “good stuff” that come out of romantic relationships, all the while forgetting that nothing of high value in life comes easily. You can’t solely want the “best”, and consequently discard the rest. Pain is an integral part of committing to something deeply fulfilling, no matter the nature of the commitment. If you’re only in it for the good times, life will one day or the other prove you that such a possibility is anywhere but applicable to reality. Let’s blame it on collective convenient ignorance?
Commitment doesn’t rhyme with convenience, yet in a society where boredom is dreaded like the plague, and patience is a story of yesterday, is it surprising to see that we’re only in it so long as it remains easy?
