A Key to A Successful Relationships

A Key to A Successful Relationships

Day 6 The word RAY

Continue to remind ourselves we are capable, effective, and efficient each and every day. The word RAY.

Roll = Let’s roll with the kingdom culture of relationships. We are having a problem and things are not working out. Single people can’t find the right people to marry that are sensible, divorcee are afraid to try again because of fear, broken-heart, distrust, married people are trying to figure out what did they get themselves into or they’re asking why they got married? Due to challenges, so everyone is struggling, even the widower. How do they respond, when a spouse dies? They are wondering and pondering in their mind, if they have the internal fortitude (mental strength and courage that allows someone to face danger, pain, etc.). Also, if they should marry again or how they should live with someone, when they remarry? There’s always a battle in the mind, so relationships are a problem. All of us are products of relationships, whether it didn’t work out, barely or hardly working or it didn’t work at all. We need to know the secrets of the kingdom perspective of relationships and how God wants to restore His authority of His foundation of relationship to us. During the 7,000 plus years of biblical, historical records, they have produced nothing better, what God has produced, the marriage. There’s nothing can compare to what God had found from the beginning called the marriage. This is to prove God is absolute, and unquestionable!

Absolute = Let’s complete and discuss more about the problem of relationships. We know every society cultivates a context (climate) of relationships between a male or female and child. Even the most uncivilized society, have some form of marriage, which means somewhere in the human genes, there’s a divine understanding that we cannot live like animals. When we are in the forest, and we meet an uncivilized native tribe, and if we live with them for a few hours, we realize they are not uncivilized. A man does have one woman in that village, and he does have a heart for his children, even when no one told them about marriage. This concludes that we have become confused as humans. We changed partners the way animals do. They are like in heat, so they have to deliver. Yet, no matter how advanced we become, we have never improved on God’s original idea, a man and a woman living together in a covenant of commitment of a relationship. Also, the greatest source of frustration, pain and human joy at the same time is found in the stages of love and relationships. We all know the joy of our first love, and the hurt of someone leaving us. It seems like, this thing we call love is sweet and bitter and pleasure and pain. All of us, we still carry some memories of those hurts. It’s bad enough to have pain in a relationship, but it’s worst, when we are trapped in the marriage with the pain. We can’t get out. That’s why marriage is the most common context (setting) of this drama; up and down, happiness and hurt, pain and pleasure, good times and bad times, I hate you and I love you, in love and relationships. Now, let’s go to God’s front yard.

Yard = Our own front yard of the kingdom of God. How do we build a good relationship? The key to all inter (with other people) personal relationships is the quality of our intra (starts with yourself) personal relationships. That means getting along with yourself is more important than getting along with others. If we don’t like us, then we cannot love others. The most important person you want to fall in love with, first, is not another person, it’s you! If we fall in love with us, then we become the most important person to us, a valuable person to us, we’re special or worthy of us, and we have a high esteem of our value to us. Then, when we give ourselves to someone, we gave them something valuable. If you don’t like you, then you gave them something, you don’t even want. Today, most people are getting married, and they don’t have love for themselves. The foundation for loving others, is loving yourself. The greatest commandment is to love God, and to love your neighbors (next to you) to the same degree, you love yourself. The value you put on yourself is the same value, you put on them. If you love you, then you will feel safe with you. Do you love yourself? The more I love myself, the safer you are with me. So, if a person don’t have love for themselves, then when they meet you, they fill that void to make up for their lack. They are like parasites sucking the love from you. You’re like the host for the leech. That’s why they make songs like “If you leave me now, you take away the deepest part of me. Baby, please don’t go.” What! Or songs like, “You are the sunshine in my life. Yeah, that’s why I’ll always stay around you.” What! 😮 Really, what they are saying, if you go away, they will go into darkness. No one should ever be our sunlight, except Jesus. You’re supposed to be a sun by yourself. When they leave us, we will still have our light. Now, we are no longer a parasite to them. It’s self-love, not selfish love. God didn’t begin with a couple, He started with one person. It’s important to be single (know you) before we get married. Singleness is the most important state of human development. Singleness is the foundation of God’s designed for the human family. Have you ever noticed that God only gave the instructions to one person? Why? He wants that one person to get it altogether, before they meet anyone. To get your life together. Adam didn’t even know, he needed anyone. Adam was so fulfilled, God had to interrupt him, to get married. Think about that! Love yourself! Then, you can truly love others! God bless you!