There is a gulf of difference between love and infatuation.The latter,in most cases becomes first,before gradually graduating to love.
It is difficult for most people to ascertain at this stage.
Keep aside all the efforts she has made to arrest your mind,she might have done or been doing same to others,largely because of her low self esteem judging by what you said about her.
The mind of some women is akin to that of a fish.But there are two kinds of fish.The ones resident in a well and ones who live in the wide wild seas.
Keep telling her off politely and acting it,not just saying alone.