We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship. But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a licensed sex psychotherapist based in San Francisco,
to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Now, onto this week's topic: How to talk dirty (without feeling like an idiot).
My boyfriend and I have pretty good sex, if I do say so myself. Only problem is, when it's comes to talking dirty, I have no clue what to do. I know things might be hotter if we actually talked to each other. How do I talk dirty without feeling like an idiot?
Don't worry, you're not the only one — there’s an epidemic of silent sex going on in this country. I hear about it from my clients all the time. “I had no idea what was going on in her head — she was so quiet. I couldn’t tell if he hated it or loved it.”
Most people tend to avoid making much noise because they worry about saying something their partner doesn’t like, feeling like a poor imitation of a pornstar, or just not knowing what to say. So they settle for quiet sex because it seems like the lesser of two evils.
I’m here to teach you how to make some noise in bed — without feeling like a moron. Talking dirty is a great skill to learn because it brings liveliness into the bedroom in so many ways. It keeps you present in the moment. It develops your communication abilities. It taps into your primal nature. It connects you to your sense of pleasure, and can actually help you feel even more turned on. And there are plenty of ways to do it without feeling like a dumbass. Here are my tips.hold her tight close to your self till you think its clause enough
