Denying Responsibility
Relationships are very important in our lives, and our wellbeing. Sometimes when someone is around for a long time, We forget how to treat that person and we start to take them for granted. Cracks form, and eventually, we may lose that relationship we once had forever. This is why it's important to constantly improve and make sure you are doing your part in the relationship.
Don't Attack In Arguments
Sometimes we see an argument as an all out war! Who can deal the most damage? Who can cause the other the most pain?
This is a horrible way to deal with an argument. An argument is supposed to help a couple come to a compromise or an agreement on future treatment/behavior. When we "attack." We can often cause permanent damage to the relationship. Even in an argument, it's important to try and come from a loving and understanding point of view. If you need time away to analyze the problem and understand your true feelings, Then do it!
Sometimes we are incapable of seeing where we went wrong! We get upset and blame all the problems on our partner. In most issues or arguments both people made mistakes, and both people need to accept responsibility for their parts. Again, Sometimes you need to get away from the situation for a bit so you can see where you went wrong, We often have very biased viewpoints.
Try to listen to what your partner is saying. Hopefully, they aren't " attacking " you. But instead, they are pointing out where they feel you wronged them. This can be a quicker way of seeing where you went wrong.
Not telling the whole story
When you purposely withhold the truth, you may claim that you are not "lying." But it is a lie. Would you want them to keep secrets from you like that? If the answer is no to avoid doing it. If you are afraid of them getting upset, Communicate that with your partner. If it's a reoccurring problem, Such as overspending or addiction. Then let your partner know if there are things that will help you, Or find a solution so you can stop that pattern.
Expecting The Relationship To Fix Your Life!
You should have a life outside of your relationship.
Friends, family, Your Career, Your own goals and hobbies.
If you enter a relationship thinking it will fix every aspect of your unhappy life. The relationship won't be happy! And you won't get where you want to be! Relationships are like icing on the cake, Not the whole cake!
Conclusion
Relationships are hard! But when you focus on continuous improvement within yourself, relationships become much easier.
Also improving communication can have a massive difference. Try to find particular things you can do to improve your dating life, But also to improve how you treat your partner. Then be open and honest about what you'd like from them. Although always keep those expectations reasonable.