The Art of Loving Yourself. How Do You Love Yourself?
I’d like to share a technique that has helped me immensely in creating a better life and make it easier to love yourself. Many people are stuck in a spiral of self-hatred and suppression that makes them think that to love yourself requires you going against your instincts, suppression and forcing yourself to do something you actually don’t feel like doing. When we want others to love us, we might feel that this is what we need to do.
Yet for some strange reason, that doesn’t really work, does it? In life, we have a certain standard of what we feel and think we deserve in life. Maybe we don’t feel we deserve to have an amazing life yet because we feel too ashamed of who we are and guilty for what we have done. We don’t even know what “love yourself” means. I remember people always telling me “you gotta love yourself” as if it is some kind of physical switch I can toggle on an off at will.
So What Do I Do?
I would like to provide you a means of transcending your current mundane life that never seems to change. I want to help you change it into one that contains more success and insight because you may have been trying so hard to be something better, but life just keeps you stagnant. You just can’t wrap your mind around why you are so “broken” and why you keep doing everything “wrong”.
From now on, whenever you face any situation, ask yourself “what would I do if I loved myself?” This is a great question because it has a way of making the answer more obvious and in alignment with what is right for you to do in order to progress.
If a certain problem or challenge arises, ask yourself “what would I do if I loved myself?”
Give the Following Technique a Try!
- Let’s say you are talking to someone and suddenly said something you felt was inappropriate. If you ask yourself “what would I do if I loved myself?” see what answer arises and act on it. Would you willingly impose more shame on yourself? Would you simply accept that you said something wrong and let it pass? Would you punch yourself in the face?
- Or lets say you answered a question incorrectly or did something cringe-worthy and embarrassing. Ask yourself “what would I do if I loved myself?” and take action on the answer.
Being Selfish
It is time to put yourself first. Stop enslaving yourself to society because they think they know what part of you is lovable and unlovable. Keep listening to everything they say and you will always be inferior. Too many people are using self hatred as their fuel. You might think that if you hate yourself so much, maybe it will force you to be something different. In other words, you put your sanity and self love as a prize for becoming a new person and used hatred and self abuse as a stimulant so that you can try and get their faster. This is actually a ridiculous idea but so many people buy into it.
Your suffering might be totally self imposed because on a deep level you feel worthless so if you hate who you are, you will have motivation to become something better. But the thing is, life only exists in the present moment, so how can you hate who you are and expect to be loved tomorrow when tomorrow never comes? By the time tomorrow comes, it is today and your programming for who you are today is: “I hate myself” “I am not worthy” “I am not good enough” so whatever actions you take towards making yourself more lovable or respected, WILL fail because any actions you take right NOW will be filtered through your self hatred and therefore make it useless and ineffective. That is why you keep failing again and again.
Give it a try