Today, I watched a movie called Ponyo. It is one of the animations from Ghibli Studio. The story is about a girl who was a fish fell in love with a 5-year-old human-being boy. The movie is magical and unbelievable as all the other animation does. What differentiates it from other animation is that the feeling the story brings us is so real, yet we all know the story itself is impossible in real life.
What the 5 years-old boy promises that no matter Ponyo is a fish or half-fish half-human, he likes her as always, reminds me of the notion we always talk about in relationships – accept him/her as a whole if you love the person. Have you ever been in a relationship with someone in school? When our love is so pure and carefree. We see each other as the perfect one who we want to be with for a very long time. We tend to accept each other no matter how many flaws they have. It was a real-life fairytale for everyone. However, as we grow older and have more life experiences, we start to add checkboxes and labels to our relationships. We tend to hide some of our flaws from our partner to make a better impression. We try to perfect both ourselves and our partner, our tolerance become lower and lower, we become more and more insecure.
For instance, society sees smoking as a bad habit, so people would try to hide it when they meet someone for the first time to make a good impression. It is okay to hide it at the beginning, but it might not be a good idea to hide it forever. If they were to accept you as a whole, they will be able to accept every single part of you – including habits. But if they are not able to accept you as a whole from the beginning, they might not be able to accept you in the future as well. No matter how hard you try to hide that part of you.
we are human, we are not perfect, but we are perfect as who we are. See yourself as a human and love yourself as a whole before you falling in love with anyone else.
@vennica a young girl with lots of random thoughts in mind :)