Hello Nomad,
I am a 32-year-old woman from China. I'm just wondering if I am close to being in relationships of any kind since I have been alone for most of my early adult life. Especially, as you can imagine, I'm looking for a soulmate connection.
Where is my soulmate, when will I meet him and why hasn't it happened to me yet? Do we have to grow old before TrueLove comes??!
Hope
Hello Hope,
Indeed, loneliness resides deep within your whole being. It is very difficult to walk a lonely path and not to understand what the reasons are for the choice you have made. It is sevenfold heartbreaking in our contemporary world where we are continuously surrounded by the media who channels messages of failure and inadequacy to those who choose to walk alone (at first). The message to those is quite the same - "you are doing something wrong; there is something wrong about you; you better change yourself and the sooner the better".
And please hear me – I deliberately said 'at first', because things will change for you. For sure. In fact, right now, hovering around you are several potential relationships. The reason they are not entering your immediate reality is because of your own specific request not to have a relationship now.
Energy responds to consciousness, not to thoughts. So, no matter how much you say/think you want a relationship, your own energy reads your state of consciousness and acts toward your highest good.
Yes, you heard me right. You are more than a physical body with thoughts and feelings. There is a higher aspect of your being that governs your life, and its purpose - YOUR purpose - is to have a complete integration with it. This is what TrueLove is about. Your communication with this essence has been very clear. YOU said to it that you still needed to learn about love and intimacy and you knew that if you had a relationship now you would be severely distracted and ultimately would not accomplish reunion with that essence.
There is no one soul mate. When we walk in our lives we continuously bump into people who are our soul mates. It can be a relationship that lasts for just a few days or one that is as long as several decades. With all of them, we have pre-planned meetings for our mutual growth. Think for a second - have you never met a man who influenced you tremendously and changed something within you? I am sure you have. Whether it was a spouse, a relative or a shopkeeper.
When it comes to intimate relationships you are correct to assume that there is one person who is the ultimate spouse with whom your soul's connection is at the highest plane possible for humans on earth. You should know that there is no coincidence or chance and it is up to YOU to walk a certain inner way to create that kind of TrueLove relationship.
Now, in practical terms -
Time is simultaneous, hence "waiting" is meaningless. A reality in which you already have a soul-level relationship is existing now. In order to bring it into your life, you simply need to allow it. How? either by being passive and trusting your SELF to do the "job" for you or by doing something on your human level that you think or feel you should do in order to make that reality happen.
For instance, if you think that you need to stop smoking before your true-lover can come - do it; if you think that you need to quit your job before your true-lover can come - do it; if you have the impulse to better your manners - do it; if you feel the urge to reconcile with an old friend - do it; AND, on the other hand, if you don't think or feel that you need to do something on your human level then don't do it, and trust yourself enough that your true-lover will come regardless (actually, thanks to) your human-level passivity.
You don't want just a regular "relationship" but a TrueLove, do you?! Therefore, the way to achieve that kind of love is through the creation of a relationship with yourself first, that is with your "higher" self", "real self", "authentic self", "oversoul" - whatever you may want to title the conscious part of you that is more than your human aspect.
A day will come when you will feel that type of relationship so deeply that it will fill you and you will no longer care or bother about a man/human spouse. Then, your true-lover will be brought into your reality effortlessly and quickly.
How much time should pass before that "day" will arrive? That depends on the level of your relationship with yourself of which only you can testify.
Gather your strengths and keep going on your path towards Realization, your TrueLove. He is waiting. And yes, patience is certainly required here.
Best of luck! (You have plenty of it).
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