Forgiving Mom is the day you give your mom a "conditional" gift. What does that mean? It means you can't buy her anything you like this year. Forgiving Mom is the day to say thanks, and a way to show your mom she is more important than any gift you could buy for her.
I know what you're thinking--you don't want to give mom a gift like this. After all, it makes you feel guilty if you do. You also probably think she doesn't deserve any gifts from you. That's a very common theme among moms. They believe they deserve no gifts from anyone, including from their children.
When I gave Mom one of these "conditional" gifts for Mother's Day, I knew she was going to be disappointed. You see, this wasn't a gift she had expected, and she certainly hadn't been looking forward to getting one. Yet, she was looking forward to receiving a personalized gift. So when I came up with the idea of giving her this, she was obviously excited.
So what I did was match her needs with a gift I thought she would love. She really loves receiving jewelry and other decorative items. Forgiving Mom allows me to give her something she truly needs on her special day, but doesn't want to receive anymore.
It all started a few years ago when we were having some financial issues. Our family didn't have a lot of income, and the gifts my wife gave us each year didn't help much. When we spent our gift money on the same old things, we really complained. This led me to search for other options that would help our family with our finances. That's when I decided to give Mom a "conditional" gift on Mother's Day would be the best idea for our family. Instead of giving her an extravagant item, I thought I might instead choose gifts she needed instead.
I began buying Mother's Day gifts for her when she was at her lowest point, and made sure that every gift was filled with love and affection. By doing so, she began to feel like the only Mother she had. It wasn't long before she had a list of all the items she wanted for Mother's Day. As it turned out, she really didn't need any of these items, but I did! After all, my goal wasn't to buy her anything she didn't want and needed.
This year, my mission was more to simply give my mom a gift I thought she would like, but that also could help her in her own way. I have a collection of Mother's Day gifts that I purchased throughout the year, and I often give one to my mother before the final gift is shipped. I have a couple in particular that I purchased at a local craft store. One of them is a set of die cuts, which my mom has wanted for years, and I gave them to her just before she passed away. She absolutely loves them, and she has told everyone about them.
Forgiving mom is a very important aspect to my mother-in-law, Meg. I have learned that she does not deserve to be offended or judged by the people who do not know her. She deserves to be respected as a Mom, regardless of what other people think. I truly believe that gifts can help us move forward in our lives when we are torn apart by anger and resentment, and if I only get one gift this year from her, it will be from my heart.