No one likes a bad mood, but sadness, anger, fear, and anxiety are hardly a day that goes by without these negative emotions in our lives:
When communicating with people, you are well-meaning, but the other side does not agree, you can not help but grievance, angry;
You feel angry and helpless when your plans are interrupted by temporary assignments.
See friends in the circle of the rich and colorful travel news, but you are doing housework, you envy, even jealousy;
You are tired from work, impatient with your children, and you feel guilty after you lose your temper.
When bad feelings hit you, you think how much better your life would be if you could live happily every day without these bad feelings.
The disappointing answer is that a bad mood never goes away, because it's not there to hurt you, it's there to protect you.
Psychology believes that there is no good or bad emotion, and all emotions are a kind of self-protection mechanism, just like an umbrella, so that you can protect yourself from injury in the face of accident and loss.
One
In the Oscar-winning film Inside Out, Riley is a carefree little girl who moves to San Francisco at the age of seven after her father's job changes, leaving the city and the hockey team she knew so well.
Unfamiliar environment, let Riley not what to do. Originally lively and funny, she became introverted and sensitive.
What governs a little girl's happiness or sadness? The screenwriters used psychological knowledge to construct a complete emotional world in Riley's brain.
She has five little people in her head who are responsible for emotions: happiness, sadness, fear, disgust and anger.
They each do their own thing, and the girl will have her own mood depending on who plays the leading role in the brain.
Of the five, Happy was the most popular, and the other four, when they had a seizure, would send people into a negative mood. Even the little people themselves wished they didn't exist, as long as Joy was in Riley's head.
But at any point when one of those emotions faded, Riley found herself in an unexpected predicament.
It turns out that each emotion has its own important role, and it is the combined action of different emotions that makes a complete personality:
Because of disgust, you can stay away from people and things that make you uncomfortable.
Because it gets angry, it makes you highly sensitive to justice and rules.
Because of fear, fear, you can avoid danger;
Because of your grief, you will receive support and love from others...
At the end of the story, Riley, after an adventure in the brain world, for the first time to understand the mixed feelings of life, to understand that there are happiness, there can be sadness, learn to let the five emotions coexist peacefully, work together.
When you understand that there is a whole emotional world inside your head that is protecting and caring for you, you will be able to accept every emotion and allow it to be properly released and expressed.
Two
Each emotion is a messenger, bringing its inner message to us.
Sometimes, when an emotion comes and you don't understand its message, or you just shut it out, it knocks again and again.
People who manage their emotions understand the voice behind each emotion.
Fear and fear, to protect you, to prevent harm from happening.
A dark night, for example, is scary because something can hurt you in the dark at any moment, and fear is a reminder to get out of the trap as quickly as possible.
Anxiety is because you want to be perfect. On the one hand, you want the best results, on the other hand, you worry about your ability, so you become anxious.
But it also reminds you that life is under control, and that every anxiety you have is because you've found something you can do better.
Anger contains the power of self-respect. You get angry when your vital interests and actions are about to be sabotaged.
Anger is a reminder that your boundaries have been violated and that you have the power to guard them.
At the same time, anger will make people naturally build up strength, for example, when people hit people in peace, and angry when hitting people, the intensity is a huge difference.
We have been taught not to be jealous since childhood, but none of us can overcome it.
Positive jealousy is a reminder of what you want and how much you want it.
It is love that makes us jealous of things we haven't got yet. It is a spiritual hunger that reminds us of inner needs we don't see.
Sadness is as powerful as happiness. It contains the power of healing and comfort, and through grief, one can truly accept loss.
Three
Emotions are physical feelings, and when you suppress your emotions, you ignore them, and they slowly hurt your body.
The ancient wisdom of traditional Chinese medicine once put forward: the kidney plays the role of fear, the liver stores anger, and the lung stores sorrow...
All the depression, anger, and anxiety you experience at home, at work, leave its mark on your body.
Academician Zhong Nanshan once mentioned in a lecture that the human body produces more than 3,000 cancer cells a day, but most of the cancer cells on the human body do not form real cancer, because cancer cells can be found and killed by a kind of natural killer cells as soon as they appear.
The human body has five billion naturally born killer cells, making it a particularly potent cancer-fighting cell, but emotions can affect its effectiveness.
If a person is in a low mood, every day unhappy, sad, the activity of the natural killer cells will decline, and optimistic, confident and other good mood, can stimulate their vitality.
The best way to deal with your emotions is to express your true self reasonably instead of repressing them blindly.
In Cracking Your Emotional Code, the authors argue that emotions are the physical codes that we cannot ignore, and that they are both original and changeable.
Emotional quality determines a person's health, success or failure, and even fate.
Creating happiness is an art, and balancing emotions is an ability.