Sometimes people change drastically. They might have had a difficult childhood, they might have had a big problem with drugs or an addiction of some sort, and now they find themselves in an even bigger hole than before. Maybe they lost their job, they met someone that they loved and married, but then something happens and the marriage breaks up. Or perhaps the spouse died and there is a great emptiness where the person used to live. At these times people need support and advice from someone who knows what they are going through.
There are many resources available for those in crisis. Many churches have professional counselors on staff. If you are having trouble finding a counselor in your area it might be wise to search online and ask nearby churches for a list of professionals they recommend. Some churches have several of them on staff and can refer you to those who are available if you have an issue. The great thing about most churches is that they all want the same thing and that is to help the member(s) of their congregation who need the most help. Most of the time they can't help out as much as the member(s) of the church and they appreciate the gesture.
Another resource for those who feel like they are in a different place is the internet. There are a number of websites set up for people in different situations to share their stories. If you are not sure what you are doing, getting professional help is a good idea. You can look at blogs, forums, and message boards to see what others are saying. If it is a religious problem, there are forums devoted to helping you solve similar problems in religion.
One way to find support for yourself is to join a small group. These types of groups are very helpful because they are small and you get to meet new people and get to know them a little bit. You may have to do a lot of reading and learning and trying to figure things out for yourself. However, it is a rewarding experience and can really help you get on track with your life and take care of yourself.
If you belong to a religious group, check with the leaders to see if they have a support group for members. Often they have smaller, informal meetings that are more flexible than a regular meeting. However, it is important to make sure you can commit and show up. For example, if you join a support group for Christians but you don't feel comfortable going to meetings regularly, you might be better off just joining the group when it does come together. This way, it won't feel like a pressure situation and you will be able to have the time of your life.
Sometimes, all it takes to bring a person back to reality is some outside help. If you know of someone whose life has changed dramatically since they joined a religious group or walked into a therapist's office, let them know. You could also seek out other people in your situation who have changed for the better since they belong to a group or professional helped them. Even if their personal lives aren't improving, they could still benefit from being involved in a group. It can be a great experience to help someone grow.
Sometimes people change dramatically because they no longer believe in themselves. In this case, you might need to take a hard look at yourself and determine if you are doing everything in your power to save yourself. Sometimes it takes hard work and a new perspective. If you are finding it difficult to move forward in your career, consider giving it a shot as well. There is nothing wrong with seeking a new career path if it means helping people better themselves.
No matter what the reason is that you are looking at how people have changed for the better, the first step is to decide that you are going to make a difference in the world. Don't allow yourself to get lost in the daily grind or feel sorry for yourself. The world needs you and if you are a good fit for the job, the company, and the organization, then you will find your way to a better life. Sometimes it requires changing your entire outlook on life in order to move forward and make a difference. If you aren't sure whether or not this type of action would be beneficial in your situation, speak to someone who can give you some insight.
