Embarrassment, jealousy, and pride are common feelings we experience when we see others achieve success and happiness. But what should we do instead? Instead of feeling ashamed or jealous, we should celebrate what they have achieved and learn from it. We should also identify what we need and give to others without thinking about ourselves. These three emotions are a recipe for depression and resentment. You can use these three feelings as catalysts to change yourself.
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Embarrassment
The insecurity of feeling shamed or guilty is a result of other people's judgment of you. It can be more pronounced than guilt because it involves the expectation of public condemnation of your actions. On the other hand, you may be the only one who is aware of your error. When you feel shamed, you suffer from an overall loss of self-esteem. Consider the example of a student who cheats on an exam, feeling incredibly guilty because she got a good grade. However, she may not even know that she is cheating, but if she gets caught, she will experience extreme shame.
Jealousy
If you feel jealous, you're doing the wrong thing. You're focused on your own anger and aren't preparing to work for your own success. You're not connecting with other people. In fact, you're more likely to feel jealous of them if you're not celebrating their success, as it will be easier to judge them. The best way to stop jealousy is to focus on the happiness and success of others and work towards your own goals instead of resenting them.
Identifying your needs
Feeling jealous or envious can be a natural human response to other people's success or happiness. This is not to be ashamed of; it is your body's way of expressing pain. By paying attention to your emotions, you can gain a deeper understanding of what you need. In addition, you can replace negative self-talk with a realistic assessment of how you are feeling.
Giving unselfishly
There is a fine line between selfishness and altruism. While putting yourself first is not wrong, giving more than you need can also hurt others. If you want respect, be worthy of it. Consider what you need and what you want to get out of a situation before you give it to someone else. This way, you can get the respect you need without hurting anyone else.
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Focusing on what's going well in your life
Trying to compare yourself to others is unhealthy and creates an environment of envy and resentment. Instead of celebrating success and joy, focus on defining your own definition of success. Know what your values are, and celebrate others' victories without diminishing your own. It's also important to compare yourself only to yesterday, and to what you accomplished today.
