Insisting that someone clip your wings can be a symptom of emotional dependency.
It is common to idealise the other, especially in the initial stages of passion: we can be deluded in our expectations of how we want the other person to be, how they treat us and how they love us, and in doing so we do not allow ourselves to see what they really are.
The other always gives signs of who they really are, but we often choose to ignore these signs. However, as time passes, the passion fades and we finally return to the real world and realise what the other person is really like.
An emotionally dependent person usually continues to delude herself into believing that if the other does not treat her with love it is because she does not deserve it, at the risk of letting the other person clip her wings, and yet she tries to be happy with that. But she is not satisfied and ends up blaming herself, and may start living according to her partner's wishes for fear of being abandoned if she does not act that way.
The constant worry about the future of the relationship and the partner's feelings causes anxiety and restlessness. When they are not together, they spend most of their time worrying about what the other person is doing and wondering if they still love them; this fixation can increase their stress level.
The dependent often transfers her insecurities to her partner, suffering greatly from any criticism she receives: almost everything is a reason for her self-esteem to decrease, as criticism increases her feeling of not being good enough, which further increases her fear of abandonment. .
By giving herself without measure, she ends up being vulnerable to abuse, letting the other person clip her wings just to satisfy her, because in her view, if she does not act as the other person expects, she may be abandoned. Emotionally dependent people therefore often experience a cycle of intense and confusing feelings, with a mixture of love and hate, fear and anger.
Until you take your first leap, you may not realise how high you can fly. Don't confuse what you want most at the moment with what you want most in life.
Know how to fly away from those who do not recognise your preciousness and treat you with all the gentleness and care you need and deserve.
Thank you 🌹
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