The One Trying to Overcome Social Anxiety Is…

The problem because it already has preconceived ideas that it is not acceptable and needs to be “fixed” with self-hatred and shame to overcome social anxiety. It is the problem because it is selling you false hope. It is the problem because it tells you “if only you could overcome social anxiety, you will finally be enlightened and experience the best moments of your life.” It is the problem because it is trying to escape from who it is, even though who you are can never be escaped from. It is the problem because it wants you to deprive yourself of even a drop of love when it supposedly knows that you made a big mistake. Whether you said something it thinks is embarrassing or stupid, it thinks that if it totally deprives you of any love or acceptance and instead forces you to feel utterly ashamed and self-hated, then you will really think twice before ever making that same mistake again; so therefore you will become a better person.

Here is a great video I made that concisely states the issue:

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It is the problem because it is holding an imaginary gun to your head saying “I swear to God, if you f*** this up again…holy f*** I will blow your f****ing brains out! Do NOT f*** this up again!” every time you are in a social situation. It is the problem because it has social anxiety and is threatening you to overcome it.

It is the problem because it will not allow you to ease your pain because it is waiting for you to be fixed before it lets you relax. It is the problem because it believes it is inherently worthless so it doesn’t want you to even bother pursuing something out of your happiness because it believes that the only reason something makes you happy is because you are a broken and screwed up person. No “normal” person enjoys what you enjoy. It thinks you only enjoy it because you stupid and retarded. In other words, don’t follow your joy because it won’t lead you to anywhere valuable; it will just keep you stupid and worthless.

It says that because it invested so much in self hatred that it doesn’t want to realize that it got ripped off and scammed. The one that sold it the idea that self-hatred and shame for being who you are will give you the motivation to be better was a snake oil salesman the whole time.