In many families, children are often disciplined by their mothers, and fathers seldom care about the children or are often outside. Because children rarely contact their fathers, they do not get more love from their fathers, which makes the children lack the influence of both parents. Balance, which is very detrimental to children. The formation of a child's personality has a lot to do with the influence of the parents' personality, and the influence of the father is greater than that of the mother.
Dad is an important source of children's personality. Generally speaking, mothers have a gentle personality, delicate feelings, and carefulness in doing things. Taking care of their children has their innate advantages. They use female characteristics to influence their children in their daily lives. Dads usually have personality traits such as independence, self-confidence, decisiveness, strongness, daring to take risks, daring to overcome difficulties, aggressiveness, cheerfulness, tolerance and so on. They can play an exemplary role for children and are especially important for boys. If the father is often with the child, the child will learn these behaviors and personality characteristics of the father in daily life. Psychologist Mike Vinny has done an experiment. Children who have contact with their father for no less than 2 hours a day have better interpersonal relationships than those who have contact with their father for less than 6 hours a week. The style of activities is more open, enterprising or adventurous, and more manly. If the child spends less than 30 minutes with his father every day, his personality will be more influenced by his mother, and he will appear squeamish and weak.
Dad is the forger of children's character. The shaping of the child's acquired character depends largely on the father. In many respects, without the influence of fathers, boys will lack the perseverance, strength and strength of a man when they grow up. If girls lack the influence of fathers, it will be difficult to establish an ideal image of a male subconsciously.
In the process of children's character formation, education from fathers is very important for the formation of healthy characters, especially boys. Dad's relatively stalwart and rugged image reminds him of masculinity. At the same time, Dad is often the main shaper of brave and strong personality. Boys can learn social adaptability from their fathers, and establish a sense of pride, authority and responsibility.
Maternal love can make children develop healthily and emotionally. The function of paternal love is to teach children how to cope with and solve various life problems they encounter. Maternal love represents human nature and emotional aspects of social life, and paternal love often It symbolizes career, thought, order, adventure and struggle, and represents the rational aspect, which is mainly manifested in the cultivation of children's sense of accomplishment. According to investigations by relevant agencies, if you have a good father, your child will have higher abilities in mathematics and reading comprehension, a sense of security in interpersonal relationships, a stronger self-esteem, and it will be easier to get along with others.
Dad is more planned, purposeful, and knowledgeable than mothers in family education, and also possesses courageous, independent, and decisive personality qualities. A study in the United States showed that children raised by men have higher IQs. They are more likely to achieve good grades in school and more likely to succeed in society. But at this stage, our children in China have been affected almost exclusively by women since they go to kindergarten. This singularity will have a negative impact on the child's normal development. Therefore, father's participation is particularly important in family education.
British writer Hubbert said: “A father is better than a hundred principals.” As the adult male who has the earliest and longest contact time in the child’s growth stage, the influence of fathers on the children is a kind of strengthening, cooperating and cooperating with the mother’s love. Supplement is also a great power to reduce the negative effects of maternal love. Only education that integrates the two strengths of parents can be a more complete education that enables children to have a complete character and develop in an all-round way.
The better the relationship between the father and the child, the greater the child's ability to cope with social pressure. If a child has had the experience of getting along well and healthy with his father, then he will appear comfortable and generous in a strange environment, otherwise, he will become nervous. For children, father means safety and self-confidence.
Therefore, as a father, apart from being busy outside, he should also allocate some time to his children. For example, take your children to the park during rest, ride bikes, row boats, do some physical exercises or small adventures. At home, you can also tell your children stories, teach them to sing and read books. In order to cultivate children who adapt to the development of the times and have complete personalities, dads must give full play to their own character advantages and cannot ignore their own educational role.