Assertive is not Aggressive

stickchumpion (63) · 7 years ago

Being assertive is awesome I actually did a course on it at work. It was the little things that helped such as trying to change your language when confronting somone with a problem. By this I mean saying "I" instead of "you". For example I feel that this happened because ..... as oppossed to you Why didnt you do this .....

$0.07

2 votes

clayboyn (70) · 7 years ago

:) That's a good skill to learn stick!

$0.11

katarinamiliv (52) · 7 years ago

I was actually about to write the same as you, @stickchumpion!
I believe that kids tend to be either aggressive, or passive, and as we grow up, we hopefully learn how to find the balance in most of the situations.
I also think that assertiveness is something that comes with practising. It is important to say 'no' when you really mean 'no', and to stand the unpleasant feeling that comes with it. It is also important to build courage to express your real emotions, and to ask for things proactively instead of just expecting from the others to sense what you want.

$0.10

stickchumpion (63) · 7 years ago

I agree asking for things proactively is the key , the worst is passive aggression where you get annoyed cause your work colleagues cant mind read.

$0.00

thevillan (68) · 7 years ago

Love the use of the dont tread on me flag, really sums it up nicely with one picture :)

dedicatedguy (74) · 7 years ago

To be assertive we need first to have a properly developed inner strength and self esteem. And this is the only way to maintain peace.

By definition, a passive person won’t stop something bad from happening, and an aggressive person will probably be the one making the bad thing happen. So the assertive person is the one that fix the problems and resolve the situation.

Besides, being asserting makes us easier to overcome obstacles and to grow as individuals

alexcaskie (43) · 7 years ago

It is wonderful to witness so many participating in this ongoing uplifting of human consciousness.

Keep on keeping on!

vnyrox (9) · 7 years ago

It’s almost a cliche you got to be assertive but not aggressive.Drawing the line between aggressiveness and assertiveness is always a difficult proposition. Awesome share @clayboyn Looking forward for more :)

clayboyn (70) · 7 years ago

Very true.

$0.00

sakura1012 (56) · 7 years ago

There are three types of people in this world.
The passive,aggressive and the assertive ones
The passive person lets other people pull him down. The aggressive person acts according to emotions and the assertive one would weigh the pros and cons of his actions. But lets be honest. We are these 3.

katarinamiliv (52) · 7 years ago

Well said, @sakura1012!
I would only add those 'passive aggressive' as the fourth type of communication patterns. Those who have 'aggressive' intentions (to get something for themselves regardless of the needs of the others), bu. t implementing them in the passive way (ignoring the messages, 'forgetting' about the agreements or promises, always being late, etc.) :)

$0.00