Like a Nasty Rash: The Self-Imposed Prison of Societal Pressure, Worry, and Perfectionism (more thoughts on parenting)

in philosophy •  7 years ago 

This is kind of a continuation of a post I did previously on Steemit that can be found here.

Sometimes the fear, worry, and shame we may feel as parents or even just as individuals (regardless of parental status) isn't even our own, though we may identify it as such.

To me, becoming who you are is the essence of anarchism, and to do that, these false prisons of fear, doubt, worry, guilt and shame should be brought into one's clear awareness, and seen for what they are.

Not fought, but seen, accepted, and then left behind.

Once aware of these things, our lives automatically change.

~*~

~KafkA

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Graham Smith is a Voluntaryist activist, creator, and peaceful parent residing in Niigata City, Japan. Graham runs the "Voluntary Japan" online initiative with a presence here on Steem, as well as Facebook and Twitter. (Hit me up so I can stop talking about myself in the third person!)

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I concur! Hey how did you end up in Japan? God I wish to reside there someday

Nice

@kafkanarchy84 -It is not always possible to totally be rid of worries. Finally, humans have evolved into a species that starts making provisions for future and have developed a tendency to worry as part of that process. However, you bring forth a very important point on how much we should worry and how much of what we worry about is really under our control. I guess we need to analyze and get comfortable with taking action on what is under our control and not worry about things out of our control. Such behavior though, may be only possible when we develop a confidence that we can deal effectively with situations without a lot of premeditation. If we, as parents display this confidence and replace worrying with analysis and planning for action on things under our control, the kids will automatically follow the same path. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this aspect. Wish you a great day. Cheers.

A lot of what we file under worrying is habitual and automatic, based on the underlying beliefs we hold. Change those beliefs and a whole slew of things we worry about evaporate.

Also, the most important element of worrying is this: it is a use of the imagination and we worry to the extent that we feel the importance of things outside of us and our own lack of control about them. The more we build a self-image as creators, instead of as reactionaries (or even victims), the more worrying can become positive imagining.

The simple fact is that we will never be able to cease thinking about the future. What we can absolutely choose is how we think about it.

Well said. All about finding a healthy way to deal with things.

"The Self-Imposed Prison of Societal Pressure"

👌 you are a wordsmith 🔥 always thought-provoking. Ain't that the truth, the hardest prison to escape can be the one in our own mind. 👊

Needed this today.

You have a unique perspective. Good post.

Thanks for sharing my boss
Glad to know you on steemit

Respect @kafkanarchy84

Nice words!

Aside from a few nut jobs, you are in a safe place here. Steem On brother!

Would you say Japan is a good place for Anarchism?
I was just pondering the intersection of Parenting of Anarchism. How do you balance punishment and non-authoritarianism?

good message about living and going with the flow. Nobody can be perfect, we just have to all take a breath and slow down.

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source: wennermedia.com
I decided to share a small secret with you today because I see so many people struggling with it. Having spend a few decades on this planet I have come to realize a few things about the ongoing human endeavour. On some level, even superficial, we all need each other in order to survive. Most tend to analyze things with the prospect of complaining: The government sucks, corporations manipulate markets, big pharma is greedy — this is more or less how it goes. A few others, a small minority, are opportunists that operate behind the scenes, creating what philosophizers desire — and ironically — end up complaining about.