Heartbreak hotel
There is no other pain like a broken heart. The gnawing stomach pains, the insomnia and the constant longing. I myself have been through this like many Steemians on here.
But you are not alone. Enter Friedrich Nietzsche, the great German philosopher to come to our hearts aid.
So, how can Nietzsche's philosophy help ease our pain? Well, one of his greatest ideas is that of our own suffering. Nietzsche believes that it's not our suffering that makes the pain monumental, but rather our 'senseless suffering' of it. That is what truly pains us and makes us cry.
Nietzsche believed that suffering can propel man (or woman!) onto greater things, and that we must believe that our suffering is a natural process of life that allows us to live meaningful lives.
Ever since my own heartbreak last year, I've taken trips overseas to Eastern Europe and Africa, and found delight in dating others, as after the senseless suffering comes the joy. The senseless suffering asked questions like 'Where did I go wrong?' / 'Why did they do this?' / 'Why are they ignoring me?'. After those questions are gone, we try to make peace with our ex-partners after all the hurtful things that 99% of us say immediately after the heartbreak period. It is their choice whether to forgive us or not.
Don't take it personally
Once we overcome this senselessness to realise that people may leave not necessarily because of us personally, but because of the unresolved issues within their own lives, we can be come to realise that there is a seed of hope within our suffering. It's easier to leave than to be left behind as the old saying goes.
The thin line between love and hate means that we may hate our ex-partner for sometime afterwards, but that is never really a long term solution. We can't carry that hot coal of hate forever. When we drop that hot coal after our senseless suffering, we slowly start to realise that we will always love them for the lessons they have taught us. My ex-partner taught me there was a past family issue that I needed to address and resolve - which I did indeed do - but by this time it was resolved it was too late.
At the end of any relationship, if we have sinned against our partner we must take stock, and if not then we must remind ourselves that our partner is as Nietzsche describes '...an ape to men ... a painful embarrassment'. Some partners have yet to mature to overcome themselves despite how much we may truly love them.
Stay happy and stay wise :)
I respect the philosophy of Nietzsche! Thank you for your post!
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I would say I'm a huge fan of 80% of his work Olga ... there is a 20% I disagree on! Great to have you pass by again. I hope all is well in The Ukraine - I'll be flying over your head next month ... but more on that in future posts ;)
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Hello! I always love to see philosophy in praxis. So, kudos, nice post. I find whenever I read Albert Camus it helps ease and fix a lot of maladies that result out trying to make sense of the world, my relationships and life in general.
“My dear,
In the midst of hate, I found there was, within me, an invincible love.
In the midst of tears, I found there was, within me, an invincible smile.
In the midst of chaos, I found there was, within me, an invincible calm.
I realized, through it all, that…
In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer.
And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger – something better, pushing right back.
Truly yours,
Albert Camus”
Happy steeming!
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I'm a big Camus fan as I mentioned in one of my previous philosophy posts. Thanks for the quote @kobiespriggs - I hope it can bring comfort to others just like it did to me :)
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Here is a link to an amazing speech. It was recently the 70th anniversary of Camus's speech he did in the United States during his one and only visit. It is read in English by Viggo Mortenson. If you have the time it is worth a listen. If you want to skip the formalities Viggo starts reading around the 13 minute mark. Enjoy it is beautiful.
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I love Viggo! This is so cool! This is so cool! Thank you. Thank you :))
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No worries. Sharing is caring. Let me know what you think. I write from an existentialist perspective and it informs many of thoughts. It gives me hope and perhaps by sharing it, it can give others hope too. Sort of like Prometheus and his gift of fire. We must "rage against the dying of the light" after all....and in doing so "we must imagine Sisyphus happy", right? Have a great day.
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I loved the video :) Sisyphus is happy of the @mindhunter :))
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Deep sorrow makes the joy seem worth it.
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AGREED :)
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Hi @mindhunter, I just stopped back to let you know your post was one of my favourite reads and I included it in my Steemit Ramble. You can read what I wrote about your post here.
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Thanks again for my inclusion @shadowspub - it means a lot to me. It makes it easier to keep doing what I do :))
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You're welcome @mindhunter and keep doing what you do :)
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I promise to do that @shadowspub - nice to see your post doing well :)
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it is.. grateful to see that
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66 reputation here we come!!
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working on it LOL
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It's tough in the 60s. I'm due to move to 68 this w/e. God knows what the 70s must be like?!
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I haven't suffered heartache like you describe, and of course I hope I never do, but I have been rather close a few times. The only thing that kept me and my wife together through those difficult arguments and fights was acknowledging how much sacrifice there is left for both of us in this relationship and the willingness to honor our commitment.
Sacrifice is suffering, and to sacrifice means to surrender our selves. Because of our need to control, grasping at life in hopes for controlling it, we suffer when that need is detrimental to the other person and we have to surrender it. For example, however much we want to help and fix things there is a overshadowing quality to that. Instead of recognizing it, we force our help onto the other person one way or another, unbeknownst to us, and the significant other is usually left without a choice to decline our help as we impose it and expect they simply adopt our advice or prerogative.
The egg analogy is an excellent tool here: an outside force cracking the egg kills life, only a force breaking through from the inside is capable of taking the next step in life. We must be cautious to not impose our will on our partners, that conflict has little if any sustenance to a lasting relationship and offers no credence for the potential of our partner to recognize their own shortcomings. We must sacrifice our need for control in order to thrive on surrendering ourselves to the commitment and life we strive for.
It's not about compromising ourselves by relinquishing our free will and becoming robots, but compromising over situations and circumstances, we need to recognize the need to bend and adjust, growth is not guaranteed but without surrendering our need for control, completely at times, we adhere to the arrogance that we have figured out or comprehended the many facets of situations, relationships, and ultimately people, and that arrogance is deluding us and inhibits further growth or evolution.
In the end there is only so much we can do, and having exhausted all modes maybe the only thing left is something very radical, but the more radical the higher the risk and hardly a semblance to the recognize and adapt Bruce Lee philosophy of "be like water". We must be cautious of the path we take or we will suffer the consequences if we give into desperation or when we don't recognize desperation in others and push them further down that path.
It is better to realize that we cannot live onto ourselves, that if we don't extend our surrender we will never have surrender extended to us, and the parable of the long spoons exemplifies how when forced to eat with very long spoons we will starve if we don't treat one another well.
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Ahhhh ... many wise words from the @baah on this day of long spoons - I'm a big fan of that parable. I did eat with a long spoon for many months after the split. Only now do I eat with the small spoon having been transformed into a much kinder person, and to make peace with not just myself, but with my ex-partner. If she wishes to continue to eat with the long spoon that is her choice. Right now I must now attend to my own boiled egg ... with a short spoon! Thank you for passing by my friend :)
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@baah having my heart broken lady year this comment speaks wisdom to me following you and @mindhunter so I can completely walk away from. My past
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About one to three years ago I had a phase when I was reading all of Nietzsches books (each one more than once) and I was heartbroken so much. But also I had many good laughs on his polmic way of criticizing Kant, Christianity, Sakrates etc. etc. etc. and there where moments when I could feel pure deep love, excitement and extatic happieness through reading his words. This author is always wearth a read ! Thank you for sharing your experience.
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Any person who wishes to bite down on the marrow of life MUST read Nietzsche at sometime in their life for comfort :)
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An interesting post!
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It was an interesting write @reenamathew ;)
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Good to know that@mindhunter
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Philosophy can always bring us comfort in times of hardship Reena :)
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Nice one, but more generally, I think Nietzsche should be approached with caution. I have reservations about philosophers who refuse to express their ideas in clear language. Go Russell!
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Yes, some of his work is rather strange to say the least! Tread with caution like you say @ocrdu ;)
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Thought you might appreciate this:
http://thegemsbok.com/art-reviews-and-articles/thursday-theater-arrival-denis-villeneuve/
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You are filling my Amazon wish list like a wild thang Kobie!
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This was an interesting article dissecting the movie Arrival through the lens of Nietzsche.
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My sister saw this one at the movies and she loved it, so it's a birthday banker bet for me now on Amazon :)
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@mindhunter this is a great post unlike you @mindhunter I don't have the luxury of travelling to Europe boy not yet it I agree with what you wrote here. Mine I kept busy. And o ask myself why it hurt where does it root start from. I realized it only hurt because u gave it to much value to begin with. It hurt because there was ego in it. Rejection never comes easy to us humans. Thanks for this post maybe I will write a related post when I had the emotional quotience to write it objectively if course no punting fingers why iT failed
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This is a great post, I really needed this.
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unable to put in words the way my heart feel right now. It's like an empty space inside of me. I never lost a Love like this. not sure how to react to this feeling, its one I've never felt before...!
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