Is modern feminism really feminist?

As those who are already familiar with these "feminist" groups will know, it is practically impossible to have a serious discussion and in terms of mutual respect with this specific group of individuals. Fallacies, personal attacks and insults is all that one can expect when discussing with these people.

Before having that discussion I made an investigation about it, to my surprise, I could find that the movement is extremely large, apparently, they have dedicated for several decades to expand all the theory that sustains its movement, topics such as "history of feminism", "feminist culture", "feminist art", "feminist music" and many others appeared mixed and related to the infinity of divergent variants and currents of thought within the same movement. Gramsci would be pleased to see the work they have done in assimilating his idea of "counter-hegemony", the rhetoric of the class struggle has been transferred to the struggle of genres in a way that borders on plagiarism in a naively blatant way, using as a point of support the Critical Theory of the Frankfurt School.

That is how I came across the concept, which by now everyone should know even a little, "gender roles", which supposedly describes the behavior that society gives to men and women based on their genders. Being these roles, according to "feminist" theory, a social construct, they must be eliminated, since they harm all people, mainly women

As we know, modern society has no mechanism to grant such "gender roles" legally, since women are not forced to work on one thing and men on another. However, the position of the movement explains that conveniently the modern establishment belongs to a patriarchal structure that indirectly places men in the places of power, which hegemonically and systematically oppress, consciously or unconsciously, directly or indirectly, to the woman.

For this reason, there is a need to eliminate "gender roles", in addition to a myriad of things that qualify as "social constructs" in order to achieve equality. This is based on revoking or abolishing the beliefs imposed by patriarchy, such as: being a nurse, secretary, housewife, or feeling attraction for men is something feminine, and being a military, carpenter, or feeling attraction for women it is something masculine. So that, if society does not have these false precepts about behavior, we would all benefit and have a greater degree of freedom, mainly women, who would benefit from being able to enjoy equality, instead of the patriarchal oppression established by the gender roles.

Everything seems fine with that, except for one thing; has no sense!

You see, if I talk about an "apple", people know what specific thing I am referring to. They know that I am referring to a fruit, but at the same time the idea of the apple also allows me to distinguish it from other fruits, vegetables and anything else. Thanks to its inherent characteristics and the uses that society gives the apple, we know that it is an apple and not pear or lemon. If I put an apple, a tomato, and a carrot on a table, and I ask you to take the apple, you would know perfectly what to take. That is so true that I don't even need to illustrate the example, because in your mind you already have a clear idea of any of these fruits and vegetables that I mentioned. No one can take an eggplant and try to sell it as if it were an apple in the market; the farmer knows that he sows and harvests potatoes and collects potatoes, some bigger than others but all finally potatoes.

What does this have to do with the whole issue of feminism?

For it is simple, as in the previous case, although there may be many different women with different characteristics, there is also an idea of what a woman is, as well as of what femininity means, the same thing happens with the idea of man and masculinity. And there really should not be a big problem with the fact of renewing these ideas naturally to suit the circumstances, but what cannot be done is to eliminate the idea completely.

Modern "feminism", fighting fervently to eliminate gender roles and to eliminate all these "social constructs", is only abolishing the very idea of women, and therefore, femininity. If a certain role and certain characteristics are not granted to women in society, speaking in ideal terms of course, then the only thing that could define what a woman is, is exclusively their biological condition. Nevertheless, for most "feminist" movements even the biological condition does not determine the gender of the person, so there simply would not be a way of knowing who is a woman and who is not, or even knowing, what a woman is.