Weak people are prone to anger and anger. The strong are usually calm and relatively peaceful. A person who is not strong in heart is not calm enough in nature. People who are not quiet in their hearts are full of storms and waves. No matter how small, it will be enlarged infinitely. A person who is not strong in heart is always insecure.
How to become a powerful person? Insufficient strength means that people are susceptible to outside influences, usually manifested as either paying special attention to the opinions of others or living in the eyes and tongues of others. As a result, they lose their independent judgment and become unstable and restless.
To be a strong person, you need to possess at least six qualities: 1) high self-discipline and self-blackness; 2) you must experience despair; 3) you must cultivate the ability to be alone; 4) you need unlimited thinking; 5) you need a belief; 6) you need to be yourself.
- High self-discipline and self-blackness
Why not say confident? People who are not confident are generally vulnerable. A self-confident person, full of confidence in himself, often with a positive and upward force, and always full of passion. All blind self-confidence and fasting self-confidence are self-righteous. In mind, we should have genuine talent and practical learning, even in the constant trial and error, but eventually we can reach the peak of the day.
Where does self-confidence come from? And how to cultivate self-confidence? A high degree of self-confidence comes from a high degree of self-discipline. What is self-discipline? Self-discipline is self-management and self-discipline. This is a very important ability. Learn to restrain yourself and control your life with a strict calendar, so that you can constantly hone your self-confidence in this self-discipline. Self-confidence also represents the ability to control things, even the most basic time can not be controlled. What about self-confidence?
In addition to self-discipline, self-blackness is also very important. The world is so big that there are all kinds of birds. When you do a little bit on that day, many people who know or don't know will be behind you, talking crookedly about right and wrong. From the beginning of the Tucao, to the argument out of context, even the dull black you.
Self-blackness means laughing at oneself and humouring oneself in black. Self-blackness is not only a way of communication, but also a realm, but also an alternative cultivation. Self-blackness does not occur until someone says you are, but requires abilities from beginning to end. You have to see through those silly and vulgar people, who are better at darkening themselves than they are. When they know they are dull, they will leave with shame.
- Must experience despair
To experience despair means to have gone through this period of time. Maybe you haven't despaired yet, which doesn't mean you are not strong, but you must not have experienced the strength of the desperate people. Life without despair is an imperfect life. Despair can be emotional, career, or loneliness that you can't face.
"Must" is a prefix, an important state. "Must" is not an active choice, but a full psychological preparation. When despair comes, accept it fearlessly, even if it is extremely painful at the moment, and even lose oneself. Looking for hope in despair is a life worth experiencing.
A strong man is not what he conquers, but what he can bear. Some things, only through experience, can understand the truth, and understand the true meaning of life. Despair is not terrible. What is terrible is the loss of courage and passion. Experience despair, but don't be engulfed by despair. On the contrary, you must overcome it as you overcome the darkness and welcome the light.
- Develop the ability to be alone
Loneliness and solitude are not one thing, they are two different things, and they are often confused. People often regard communication as a kind of ability, but neglect that solitude is also a kind of ability, and in a sense, it is more important than communication. If not good at communicating is a weakness of personality, then the impatience of loneliness is simply a defect of the soul.
To endure loneliness, not drift with the current. Loneliness is a person's carnival, carnival is a group of people's loneliness. The so-called maturity is that the older you grow up, the more you can learn to adapt to everything by yourself. In the time of solitude, find what you really love and cultivate your independent judgment.
Only by learning to love oneself can one be able to love others. If you don't learn to talk to yourself, it's harder to communicate with others. The more one can be alone, the more one can face and understand difficulties, and the more one can get along with others. Because we can think instantly, we can put ourselves in the other side's shoes.
- Unconstrained Thoughts
Your vision is farther than others, and your heart is wider than others. Every day counts life, sooner or later the future will also be counted by life. In addition, they live in a variety of cautious and small patterns.
Life is like driving a car. When you are 30 yards faster than others, you feel something that others can't perceive. Life is like flying an airplane. When you are 30,000 feet taller than others, you will naturally see different horizons from others. That is to say, when you pursue a higher and farther beauty, you don't have to care about other people's short-sighted eyes. All natural clouds are light and breezy, and are no longer affected.
After being broad, we will not be bound by parochialism. After liberty, it will not be restricted by formalism.
- Need a belief
People are too limited. Whatever you believe in, there must always be a belief. Otherwise, there is no difference with animals.
In this era, almost everyone has beliefs, but their beliefs are different. Some believe in power, some believe in money, some believe in self, some believe in love, some believe in happiness, some believe in food, some believe in parties, some believe in systems, some believe in atheism, some believe in gods, some believe in polytheism, some believe in Christ...
No matter what kind of belief, it is worthy of respect, and any belief needs to be deeply understood and believed before it can be called belief. Any belief, if it is a vague letter, can not be called belief. It belongs to superstition and all religious beliefs, including Christianity.
Wisdom and truth have the distance between heaven and earth. Learning to thirst for truth is better than wisdom. Truth can make people more wise to see the world, tolerant attitude to complex interpersonal relationships, incomparably firm beliefs to run the road of life, calm and calm to face the darkness of human nature and the tragedy of the world.
- BE YOURSELF (Be Yourself)
JUST BE YOURSELF. Don't try to please everyone. You can't do it now and you can't do it in the future.
It's impossible for people to be all-inclusive. Everyone should have the people they care about most. They are the most precious wealth in your life. If they misunderstand or question what you do, it's worth your time to respond and explain.
Here are three groups that individuals care about most, for reference only: 1. Family members (not counting relatives, only once a year, but not clear about your life orientation); 2. Life confidants (a few true friends, all know the root); 3. Priests or mentors (spiritual mentors, and elder leaders in the workplace).
Their comments/comments/suggestions will be listened to carefully. If there is misunderstanding, it will be fully explained and responded. Only the person who really cares about you knows you in a relatively comprehensive way, and most of the others have a one-sided perception. There is no special intersection in life, some are just hearsay or just a few sides of the relationship.
Don't respond to familiar strangers. They don't really care about you. They are just curious babies. Time is so precious that it has no time to take these into account, nor is it in the scope of the obligation to explain. You don't need to live in other people's words. There are many more important things to do in your life.
Powerful people seldom care about the opinions of others, including familiar strangers. Just as positive people seldom pay attention to negative information, even when they see it, it is automatically instantaneously blocked or digested. They are very clear about their position and pursuit.
If you encounter obstacles, you will do everything you can to eradicate them. In the face of setbacks, it is not easy to give up falling. Overcoming difficulties, we have strength. If we solve the problem, we will have wisdom. Out of the darkness, there is hope. For them, these are just the only paths to life.
A truly powerful person must have a calm heart, a gentle heart and a wise mind. I must have experienced storms, mountains and valleys, and all kinds of life. May we be strong and courageous, full of wisdom, and strong in heart, no matter what circumstances we face in life.