Praise leadership should be based on facts

Everyone is eager to be praised by others, because this is the basic psychological need of people, which is beyond doubt. Praise is the spring breeze of the corners of the mouth and the DIA of words. It is the key to open people's hearts and can instantly satisfy their greatest desire.

Rousseau said: "Sages and philosophers never pursue luck, but they cannot be indifferent to praise and encouragement." For professionals, getting along with leaders needs to praise the support of these "big hands". Timely and proper praise can produce great power and is a means to achieve success.

But in fact, praise is not a simple thing, because the praise in the conventional sense, that is, it falls into oblivion, and it lacks originality and sincerity. Therefore, we might as well change the angle, seize the praise point, so that there is evidence to praise.

You know, everyone wants to be praised and likes to wear a top hat, but the key point is, how to wear this top hat is appropriate, and to make the other party feel that you are wearing it reasonably, so when getting along with the leader, you must be good at tapping his advantages. Even if you don't like this leader, you will find it if you look for it with your heart. Grasping his advantages and praising it will definitely make him look at you differently.

Napoleon marched to fight, was witty and resourceful, hated flattery most, and he didn't eat it at all. The soldiers in the barracks knew this from top to bottom, so some people wanted to praise him, but they didn't dare to speak.

However, a soldier was very clever and found a way of praise that others did not find. He said to Napoleon, "General, you are the last person to listen to flattery. You are really a wise man!"

Napoleon not only didn't scold him, but was very useful. Carnegie was recognized as a bad boy when he was a child. When he was nine years old, his father married his stepmother into the house. At that time, they still lived in poor families in the countryside, while their stepmother came from rich families.

My father introduced Carnegie to his stepmother and said, "Dear, I hope you pay attention to the worst boy in the county. He has made me helpless. Maybe before tomorrow morning, he will throw Stone at you or do something bad that you can't think of at all. "

To Carnegie's surprise, the stepmother came up to him with a smile, held his head up and looked at him carefully. Then she came back and said to her husband, "You are wrong. He is not the worst boy in the county, but the smartest and most creative boy in the county. However, he has not found a place to vent his enthusiasm. "

The stepmother's words warmed Carnegie's heart, and tears almost rolled down. It is with this sentence that he and his stepmother began to establish friendship. That is, this sentence has become the driving force for his whole life, which has enabled him to create 28 golden rules of success in the future, helping thousands of ordinary people in Qian Qian to embark on the road of success and wealth.

When Carnegie was 14 years old, his stepmother bought him a second-hand typewriter and said to him, I believe you will become a writer. Carnegie accepted the gifts and expectations of her stepmother and began to contribute to a local newspaper. He knows his stepmother's enthusiasm and appreciates her enthusiasm. He saw with his own eyes how she changed their family with her own enthusiasm. Therefore, he is unwilling to fail her.

This power from his stepmother stimulated Carnegie's imagination and creativity, which made him a rich and famous American writer and one of the most influential figures in the 20th century.

Before the stepmother arrived, no one praised him for his cleverness. His father and neighbors decided that he was a bad boy. However, the stepmother only said one word, which changed his life's fate.

From the above examples, we first see the great power of praise, and at the same time, we also see the skills of praise. When you know how to praise others, they will feel very happy and have a good impression on you. Therefore, if we want to improve the relationship between the two sides and draw closer to each other, we might as well find the place where the other party shines and praise them properly.

In the previous example, the clever soldier caught Napoleon's praise for not listening to flattery, because in Napoleon's view, not listening to flattery is an advantage, and the soldier is undoubtedly talking about his heart and will naturally reuse him.

In the latter example, Carnegie's stepmother is also a smart person. What she saw was the advantage of a bad boy that others did not find. A compliment made a bad boy one of the most influential figures in the 20th century. Finding praise points is also the way for professionals to get along with leaders. When praising leaders, they should also find the bright spots of leaders, so as to give full play to the greatest role of praise.