Navigating my Way Through Life with "Too Many Interests Syndrome!"

in psychology •  7 years ago 

I always admired those kids who knew at age 11 that they wanted to be "a farmer" or "a veterinarian" when they were 11 years old, and then they just methodically pursued that dream with no deviations from their path.

A Terrifying Question

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Winter sunset

When I was little, the inevitable question "So what do you want to BE, when you grow up?" tended to fill me with a sense of dread because I knew the questioning adult expected some kind of answer.... and yet I had not the faintest idea what I wanted to "be." 

I got in trouble a couple of times for answering "bigger," but quickly learned that the punishment for being a smartass was just not something I wanted to deal with.

It wasn't even a case of my constantly changing my mind... it was a question of simply not knowing because there were so many possibilities yet to be explored, and I didn't feel like I had even the vaguest sense of which one I might like to commit to.

College Daze... and Setting a Record

I ended up going to college about 2 1/2 years after having decided that I was not going to go to college. 

Beach
Pacific Northwest beach

In the course of about five years, I managed to change majors more times than the wind changed direction, and even was part of various "unspecified" programs in between. 

I ended up setting somewhat of an informal college record by getting special permission to change my major after what was to be my final semester had actually begun. I sat down with a degree counselor and we determined-- based on my close to 185 credit hours (120 needed for a degree)-- which degree I was closest to graduating with... and that's what I ended up with: General Business with a minor in English. 

It should be said, for the record, that 32 years later I have never used my degree for anything.

But that's not really what this article is about.

The Problem is... Pretty Much EVERYTHING is Interesting!

Cairn
Stacked stones...

One of the things that has caused me to seldom hold "regular" work is that I am capable of doing almost anything people can come up with... yet I excel at pretty much nothing.

If you look at that slightly differently, it means I'm qualified for almost every job, but I'm the "standout candidate" for none.

Of course, saying that "pretty much everything is interesting" is a bit of a misnomer. These statements should be taken with a grain of salt and understood in the context of the broader reality that I generally don't have much of a work ethic and I'm neither particularly driven nor ambitious.

I tend to do exactly enough to get by, and then I pretty much stop.

Well, Today I'm Going to.... Oh, SHINY!

Leaves
Fall leaves

Those who have followed my blog here for a while might be a bit surprised because I seem able to write something new, every single day.

But the truth is that an environment like Steemit is actually ideal for someone who's interested in lots of different things and can only hold a thought for a fairly short time. 

And even as I write this post, I have already "broken away" TWICE to furiously type out outlines for two completely unrelated posts... triggered by something I just wrote. 

Steemit is ideal because I can write about one thing now, and something completely unrelated in 20 minutes and then a photo post and then something on @zappl

How the HELL Do You Do That at Work?

Work-- in the conventional sense people understand it-- was always a challenge for me because I would branch off into 47 unrelated things while working on a main project. Whereas I excelled at various forms of brainstorming, I pretty much sucked at executing any of the ideas I'd brainstormed.

RedFlower
Red Desert flower

Originally, I became a self-employed person because it would allow me to work "in fits and starts" which suited me... but even here, I suffered under the illusion that I had to "pick a lane, ANY lane, and STICK to it!

Yeah, not so much.

As the Universe would have it, I am currently:

A writer and blogger
An artist
An online seller of jewelry and artist supplies
A dealer in rare postage stamps and paper collectibles
An opportunistic flea market seeker and reseller
A self-development workshop facilitator
With my wife, co-administrator of a non-profit organization

It's not your normal bag of goods, but I make it work for me because the ability to flit from one unrelated task to another suits my temperament.

So... Can You Just NOT Concentrate?

CaliforniaPoppy
California Poppy

Funny thing is-- I can actually concentrate really well when something matters and there's a deadline. 

I once completed 38 pieces of art in 14 hours because I had an unexpected show in a couple of days... and the work was actually quite good. 

The strange flip side of this equation is that whereas I tend to be "all over the map," I can also "hyperconcentrate" when the situation calls for it. And, in general, got more done with greater accuracy than a roomfull of people... and in less time.

I just don't enjoy doing it. Of course, that brings up the whole secondary question of whether we're even supposed to "like" what we do for work... but that's for another post!

How about YOU? Did you know what you wanted to "be" when you were a kid? Are you a stick to it type of person, or someone who moves around a lot? Can you relate to "too many interests syndrome?" If you can, how has it affected your life; your relationships; your work? Leave a comment-- share your experiences-- be part of the conversation!

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You seem to have unearthed a cluster of multi-talented individuals. As you say, it isn't a lack of focus, it's just a change in focus.

I figure I just enjoy solving puzzles, so that once a puzzle has been solved, merely carrying on in the same vein coz I'm "good at it" loses its appeal - moving on to the next shiny puzzle may well be in a completely different area. I've never found a "job" that would satisfy that - blogging comes close.

A friend of mine-- who knew a lot about NLP-- observed that I just like to "chunk small." Meaning that I prefer to start and complete lots of super short tasks in sequence... rather than have one long ongoing and fluid task.

And that's very true. It's why I really enjoy "social blogging" like we do on Steemit, but have never been able to write a complete book. Here, every post, every comment is a complete "task" that is DONE once I click "POST." There's no follow-up, or "call back" or having to think about it over a long period of time.

It's also why selling on eBay worked for me... each listing is it's own separate universe. I list something, it sells... and it's DONE. Completed. There's no state of "ongoing."

I've done some similar things. Had a secondhand bookshop; made a lot when Amazon first started allowing dealers to sell on their listings as I often had the only copy in their back catalogue, and most people had then never heard of Bookfinder or Abebooks.

But what the internet gave, the internet then took away! Many beautiful, limited edition, "rare" books were suddenly not so rare - price pressure was down down down. The money was in original ephemera.

Anyway, rambling; not sure about the small chunking (never liked the word!) as I can think top-down as well as bottom-up. I enjoy thinking across disciplines - one of my favourite TV series remains James Burke's Connections. I have written a book; some chapters were harder work than others, but got it finished!

The one puzzle that remains "ongoing" is "what am I doing here?!" :-)

hahahhah - the story of my life ! - there is simply just too much going on, to not flit around..

I'm exactly the same - I can hyper concentrate if required but if not needed, I just find I don't have the....
oh....
one sec...

brb..... just saw a praying mantis on my door.....I like praying mantis...

Yeah, there's pretty much always something of interest going on.

And since I am basically a shameless opportunist, I have managed to not hold a "real" job since sometime in 1999... because there's always some way to turn "X" into "Y" and then sell it to someone who thinks "X" is shit, but "Y" is pure genius....

hahaha - same here.
You have to be when you travel with not much . Saying that, I was like that before I went traveling. I just get bored easily.
(less so with age, thank god!)

32 years later I have never used my degree for anything.
same thing happened to me.
only it was degrees...plural.
AAS (technical) BS (business) MS (management)
so I took a twelve week course and become a TRUCKER

Actually, I lied.
For a while I worked for ETS online-- grading high school English papers for the California school system.
The job (contract) required "a college degree from an accredited university."
It was a good gig. It started at $18/hr.
Then it became $15/hr.
Then $12/hr.
Then $10/hr.
Then $9/hr.
I bailed when it got to $8.50/hr.
As it happened, they had an increasingly large number of "perfectly qualified" (US college degrees) candidates from the Philippines applying.

sidenote: I always had a problem with hourly wage.
my problem was I rarely got one...I always got paid for what I produced.
for example. If it took me two day, three days, or two weeks to deliver a load...I got paid the same.
(snow storms were a bitch financially).
you can see how that might affect how I feel about minimium wage?

That's v. interesting - I never thought of that before.

Apart from 6 months I spent in a warehouse order picking, I have never had a job on hourly rates either..

I lied - big time !-
my job in adult industry was very much hourly rates ! lmao

I always preferred "piece work," if I could get it... because I was good at figuring out "systems" and how to be most efficient within their structure.

One of my early work life lessons was working at a factory-- doing piecework, checking and boxing hair dryers, of all things (think "inspected by no.43"). Everybody was being paid by the item... but I got... "moved" after a couple of weeks because I was doing twice to 2.5x the volume of many of the old timers... I was about 22 at the time, and needed to fund college.

yup...making the other guys look bad?
I had a buddy once...old oil field hand.
he went to work in a factory for a while...his wife nagged him.
unions...
He could NOT believe how they worked.

He got ALL the work done that they would ALLOW him to do...in the first two hours every day.
then spent the rest of the day building himself a REALLY nice tool box.
They not only allowed it..they expected it..
he had a conscious
he quit after a few months.

The ADHD club! Hello @denmarkguy,

This resonates with me pretty well, as I can probably do anything, as long as I genuinely feel like doing it. It makes me come off as a space cadet, but at least I'm never bored. Hyperfocus is definitely a blessing, and although I'm still caught in the trap that I have to choose something indefinitely, I'm learning slowly that being myself is A-OK!

Thanks for sharing this, it's always nice knowing you're not alone.

<3 @shello

It's always interesting to see just how many independent/self-employed people are all over the map. I'm pretty close to concluding that there may be a causal relationship, in many cases... I am self-employed because I am not good at doing the same thing, all the time.

Some would say I should just find some pharmaceuticals so I could become more "normal." But to what end?

But yeah, you're definitely not alone.

Sorry for the late reply @denmarkguy,

The difference I see with those "who appear everywhere" is that they genuinely enthusiastic about the tasks they take up! I am not self-employed, and for me it is difficult to do multiple things in a rapid succession. I can do a few things really fast, but I often experience difficulty in finding a good fit.

I think that receiving medication only covers issues without problem-solving head-on, and oftentimes feels more like a cop out if anything for me.

It's nice to know that there are others going through similar things!

Mahalo,
@shello

I always admired those kids too but now I've made my peace with have many interests (I don't subscribe to them being "too many" 😁). I still feel like I'm waiting to find out what I want to do with my life but that means I'm missing this, this moment, this life. So more and more I try and live in the moment and let it unfold and trust that all is as it should be - many interests or not! 😍

Sounds like a good approach to me... I think Ram Dass was pretty dialed in to what we make important, and what we do not.

Yes. And much of the time we are so busy, and caught up in our stories, we fail to notice what is around us right now. I wasn't expecting to get lost in Steemit as much as I am. Not sure how I feel about that. I'm loving the connections I'm making and the gamification aspect of it but, at the same time, I'd like to spend more time away from my computer. Oh well . . . let's see what unfolds. ✨

Oh this post REALLY spoke to me.
For about 15 of the last 20 years I have worked from home. Writer, blogger, freelancer and ghost writer... like you jack of all trades but (hand) skills of none. I am a creative soul, not a pencil pusher (no offense to those that are).

About the same as me... I was a technical writer, then became a contract technical writer (which was nice because of the finite job length), and then I just went off on my own... created newsletters, advertising copy and sales letters mostly for retail businesses.

My current CV... well, you sort of saw that up above.

Wow, great description! I really identify with a lot of what you said. Here we refer to it as Jack of all Trades, Master of None. A lot like you, i have decided to be exactly what I am when I grow up, alive and engaged in what ever happens to hold my interest at that moment. Thanks for taking the time to write this, I really enjoyed it.

Glad you got something from it!

Maybe the "secret" is not that we try to change ourselves, but that we make peace with the fact that we simply approach things a little differently.

Yeah, I'm very similar. It's why I can't sleep. I feel like sleep is getting in the way of me doing or learning something new.

When I was a kid I wanted to be a pilot. At 16 I became a pilot, and after 18 years of age I never piloted a plane again. Turned out it wasn't something that I really wanted to do.

Ah, but then I discovered sleep yoga and "sleeping" no longer seems such a waste of time!

Sleeping has always been somewhat difficult for me. Even as a kid, 7 hours a night was pushing it... the whole teenagers who sleep 14 hours a day phase? Never went through it...

As time passes, all I want to be is me.

The Problem is... Pretty Much EVERYTHING is Interesting!
Well, Today I'm Going to.... Oh, SHINY!

And so go most days online, or on Steemit, for me. I just can not focus as such, unless there’s stringent deadlines I absolutely need to manage. Tried it all, currently even trying to make the iPad my main device just because of that.

But everything is so interesting! The issues of being a geek.

Well done @denmarkguy! When I was younger I knew I wanted to be a husband and a dad. All of the other things are just how I pay for what I want to be. Now, like you I am sortof all over the place.

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I can relate! In taking some evaluation tests, it turns out I'm not driven by external expectations -- or internal ones, either. So I can't even tell myself what to do. I've been fortunate to be paid well to be an idea person for my career. But it does get harder, not easier, to stick with some things. I am impressed with your ability to stick with writing something every day, or more.

I like your answer about what you wanted to be when you got older, lol.