Interesting Post Amiga Abigail!
"I can not deal with my daughter anymore, I give up! She makes me want to cry". <
In the case of lilly, who suffers the most for her behavior is her mother because she feels defeated by her behavior.
Lilly sat in her chair and grabbed a doll; She did not seem happy, but she did not make a scene either. When I finished talking to my husband a few minutes later, I had forgotten about her, she was never so quiet. Then, he gently asked 'aunt, can we chat and play now?' Oohhh ... 😍 I said with the most genuine smile 'Lilly! Did you know that you are a very beautiful and educated girl? She nodded happily and exaggeratedly. <
Taking into account that a child's aggressive behavior is a learned behavior and as such can be modified, the intervention of the parents is very important. Physical punishment is not advisable in any of the cases because its effects are generally negative: the aggressiveness is imitated and the child's anxiety increases.
We must show children other ways to solve conflicts such as dialogue, reasoning, and setting standards. If children see that adults try to solve problems with peace of mind, they can imitate this way of acting.
Greetings @ Abigail-Dantes.